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hotrod


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The C2C reading for January 10th speaks about the many hours we have sacrificed living in worry and fear. The reading points out that once we open the Pandora's box of worry and relentless self-criticism, the more we lose our foothold in reality. Then nothing useful can be accomplished.

In order to break the cycle of fear and worry,we need to learn to focus all our attention on the very moment. We can turn away from destructive thoughts and concentrate on the sights and sounds around us, all in the here and now. These bits of realities can help to rescue me from the"what if "or "should have" by anchoring me in the present moment.

We can stay in the moment and in the day by using prayer and meditation, the slogans and phone calls to Al-Anon members.  We are more receptive to a Higher Power's will and more able to work our way through difficult time if we stay in the present moment for that is where HP is found..

We must remind ourselves that this day is the only day we have to work with. If we are tempted to worry about tomorrow, we must bring our minds back to the present moment.
 
 
The quote is from Mahmud Shabistari the; "the past as flown away, the coming month and year do not exist. Ours only is the present tiny point."

I am so grateful to the tools of Al-Anon for allowing me to live in the "present moment" and enjoy feeding the  squirrels, and birds, seeing the beauty of the flowers, and children at play , all of which I would've missed if I had been worrying about the future OR the past.
Love this ancient Sanskrit Poem
 
"Look to this day for it is life"
 Yesterday is but a dream and
Tomorrow only a vision
but
Today well lived will make every yesterday a dream of happiness
and
Every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well to this day 
 






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Thank you Betty for the daily and for your service. the only way I can have peace of mind is to stay in the present. I used to spend so many moments, days, weeks, etc. filled with worry and fear. This was such a waste of time and I am grateful that I now trust God, my HP to lead me away from that towards a better life. I still have moments of wondering why I can't get what I want that are quickly reminded by the reality that I always get what I need.

I love that poem as well - keeps me focused where I need to be - right here and right now!

Happy Sunday to you - may your day be blessed and full of joy!

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Thanks Betty

This really 'speaks' to me today. I still get caught up in the worry over my A boyfriend just concerned over his health, depression, bad moods etc. But I can't control any of this. The 'old' me would be back over to see him tonight to see if he was doing better and I was thinking about that. But I decided, No it becomes too depressing on me all of these highs and lows of things I can't control and it gets to be part of that old cycle that I am learning to stop. I am learning to have confidence in my HP that He is in control of my life and it will go according to how He sees it best. 

I am trying to focus on me today and doing some things I want to do and reading posts on here. It has taken a lot of time to turn my attention off of him and back on me. I was always the wife, mother etc. and only am learning these past two years after my divorce who I am again. 

Thanks for taking the time to post these everyday. 



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Thank you. I am struggling with worrying about my daughter, who is using and mentally ill, with three very young children. I am also an adult child of an alcoholic and recovering alcoholic (more like dry). I'm also grieving the loss of one my children, who died coming up on four years. I keep telling myself I am powerless, and to not say anything to my daughter, but I am powerless over my mouth, texting, etc.. It's literally driving me insane. Meanwhile, I look like the crazy one. I know Al-Anon is what need, but haven't been willing to go anywhere for over a week. I'm hoping this way will help break the ice, so I can get to a in person meeting. Thank you for listening.

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Welcome to MIP Neb
I am sorry to read of the loss of your child and do know how difficult that grief can be. Alcoholism is a progressive chronic disease that can be arrested but never cured . Alanon meetings helped me to develop mew constructive tools to live by and restored my self esteem in the process.
We do have on line meetings here 2xs a day here is the web address and schedule

www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html


Morning Meetings

Mon. - Fri. at 9am EST

Sat. - Sun at 10am EST

Each Sunday morning at 10 am EST, we will be having a Spiritual meeting with a topic relating to the Spiritual part of our program.

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Thank you so much!  I appreciate your response. Yes, it seems my disease is knocking at my door. the loss of my daughter, who was a Senior in high school has been a nightmare.  I will give an online meeting a try. 

 



-- Edited by Neb66 on Tuesday 12th of January 2016 04:13:30 AM

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Welcome Neb66 to MIP - glad you found us and glad you posted. You are not alone and we are just a post away!

Joining us is a great first step. I understand the isolation you are experiencing - it's a by-product of living with the insanity of this disease. I also understand the 'craziness' - I was there too - and figured out upon self examination that I was not just acting that way, I was that way. I was so focused and consumed on what others were doing and how they were destroying themselves (in my opinion) that I was not tending to myself or even taking care of myself.

Our meetings here are great - and another place to start. They will make you feel welcome and answer questions you have after/before the meeting.

Keep coming back - recovery is possible and life changing! Do it for you.

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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