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today, i think i stretched the technique of 'say what u mean and mean what u say' . Guypal is coming over and i was real shoert with him and im going to apologize as soon as he gets here. Not to get too detailed, being stronger now makes me brutally honest, more so than i ever was. I see my value[ despite my problems/baggage] so i get impatient with hesitancy now. wow so many emotions to deal with
talked to ex bro in law about xah and i was so smart to leave because if possible xah is circling the drain worse than i thought. he has himself convinced that im coming home after a certain time..ill fight tooth and nail to stay away
(((Alyce))) - when I read your post, my first 'mind message' was progress....not perfection. What is so great about our recovery is we have the tools to get through anything. You said your truth, decided the delivery was 'off', realized you can correct that with amends and then move forward!
How cool is it when the program brings us full circle in such a short period of time? Situations like this before recovery would have either not be realized by me or would have caused me brain trauma overthinking what to do next.....
Your post made me grateful that we're all on this journey together. The world would be a better place if everyone had a program (and used it)!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Amending for me included compassion and empathy finally as I went thru the realization that I too could be hurtful and even more hurtful than my alcoholic/addict. I learned to give it all away the good and the bad and amending helped me to let the bad go. When I realized how hurtful I could be I finally felt those two emotions I built a wall against...guilt and shame. God those two suck yet for me are necessary emotions to support change. Overdoing Al-Anon how interesting a topic. (((hugs)))
