The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Whoever was the focus of my obsessions and frantic dancing to manipulate the outcome does not matter. I arrived at AlAnon completely in the middle of my own maladaptive behavior. My formula was to try harder doing and thinking my ineffectual way.
It is I who needed help here. I am my own AlAnon qualifier. It took me many meetings and a wise sponsor to gradually direct my attention to me. What a difference that made!
The erstwhile qualifiers can come and go, but I was the constant in my life story.
My gratitude for finding AlAnon and being permitted to participate knows no end.
Jill - great, honest and powerful share. It is true for me also that I remain the same, yet 'insert qualifier' and I can start leaning back towards the old behaviors quickly if not program centered.
It reminds me of that statement, "No matter where you go, there you are...." and also with the help of a great sponsor and some grand program friends, I am different, better than I used to be.
Forever grateful for Al-Anon and also glad to be sharing the journey!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
