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I recently discovered that my finace's drinking problem stretches out more than just the weekend drinker...I found out he drinks alone mostly..... He says he is "Sick"when ever he really is just drunk or getting over a binge. He has been "sick "about every 4 or 5 weeks. I just wanted to say hello and I will watch the post and read up more on how to deal with this. See he knows that I am a gambling addict and he was there when I was down.... I want to help him the same way and try to not internalize the issue... but deal with it and find support when it gets bad.... right now... it is bad, he has been on a binge since 12/22... my birthday. I don't want to end the year by myself and feeling that I might have been the cause of the fight that triggered his binge... I know!! The reality is that is it NOT my issue.. it was just a good reason for him to spout off for his behavior. Anyway.... Happy Holidays.
Welcome Flovett, I'm glad that you reached out and shared. Alcoholism is a chronic, progressive, fatal disease that can be arrested and never cured. The first thing we need to realize is that we did not cause this disease, cannot control the disease and cannot cure it. In other words, we are powerless
, Living with the disease of alcoholism we develop many negative coping strategies in order to deal with the insanity that we encounter.
AA is a recovery program for alcoholics and Al-Anon is the recovery program for family members. Face-to-face meetings are held in most communities and the hotline number can be found in the white pages.
Is at these meetings I learned to break the isolation caused by the disease, and develop new constructive tools to live by. I urge you to search out meetings and to keep coming back there is hope and help
Flovett - I too welcome to you MIP. As Betty suggests, getting involved in Al-Anon now will help you have support close by (when you need it) and give you a fellowship of others who fully understand what it's like to love or live with an alcoholic.
In Al-Anon, we learn about the disease and how it affects others, including ourselves, beyond the alcoholic (qualifier). One of the first things I heard and held on to was the 3 C(s) - I did not Cause it, I can not Cure it and I can not Control it.
We have meetings here too - twice daily - check the top left for the times and a link to the meeting room. You are not alone and we're just a post away!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
