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How is everyone going to celebrate the new year? I am considering a very sober celebration of the new year 2016! I am even turning 50 this coming year. I hope you all can cope w/ or w/o the drinking in your loved ones lives. I am hopeful for all of you. I am so grateful that Christmas is over only because I can get so caught up in the giving & not giving this Christmas brought. For one thing, I think my family "expects" something to come in the mail every year every season. I rarely even get a polite thank you to know if they even received. I am no going to go further w/out my own expectations & celebrate my life!
I am so grateful too that I can get on here & let go of some past hurts & struggles. I always say I don't have problems just issues.
So, I hope you all have a beautiful, serene & hopeful new year one day at a time!
I too am grateful that I made it through Christmas and saw just about everyone in my family. Our event had 54 people, and there was tons of alcohol but no fights, no blood and considering the flow of booze, no major chaos or drama. For me, holidays are about the kids and the elderly and the kids had a blast and my parents (oldest) enjoyed themselves, so it's all good and a success.
I do not shop any more nor do I give out money/cash. I just decided to stop all that, shared it accordingly and consider being together my gift (giving/receiving). I even spoke for a while to two cousins that I usually avoid as best as possible. Both conversations were guarded but successful and cordial. So - one holiday down and the new years to go!
My parents leave on the 31st after 2 weeks, so I will celebrate the New Year by moving back into my room and settling my home back to how I want/like it. If I know me, I will not make it to midnight, but one never knows. I do not go out as I consider it amateur night. All my friends know that I am a home body that night and it's all good!
I'm looking forward to the new year and hoping it brings continued growth, healing and peace in my life. I hope the same for you and all of our MIP family!
(((Hugs))) and love back your way and hope you have a great evening and a super new year!
PS - I passed the big 5-0 a few years back - it ain't nothing but a number (or so I tell myself)...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hi Kathleen I plan on a quiet New Years celbration . Dinner with a few friends and then home to dance and watch the Times Squate Ball ball drop.
I too send out numerous gifts to family members without receiving a simple acknowledgment Thought i might re think for next year but then I enjoy doing it so I no doubt will continue. I passed 50 many. many years ago .:0
I too will turn the big number that ends in an "oh" in 2016. I shared in Al-Anon that I only have 5 months now to become the women I thought I would be by now!! Oh well, I am progress not perfection! I too struggle with gifts sent out with no acknowledgement. I really try to pick a special thing for everyone and so to have no acknowledgement is a bummer, but then I remind myself the blessing is in the giving, not what I get back.
We will spend our evening at our little community center with dinner, drinks and dancing. Hopefully it will be low key and everyone will behave. Or not...I trust my higher power on this one for sure!!
Happiest of New Year to you! You are doing great in my book!!
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"Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be." Abe Lincoln
I will spend the night watching the BIG GAME this year..... We were going to go to a hockey game (the whole family, 9 adults and 8 under 15 yrs.- we all stay in one very large house) but then Michigan State won enough to go to the big times on New Years Eve. So we get to save a lot of money not buying hockey tickets and we get to all be together to watch TV and have a tail-gate party at the dining room table. The hubby and one daughter are not allowed to drink, but the rest of them will be under control while their children enjoy the night with us. I know I barely will make it to midnight to watch the ball drop. We always watch the celebrations on the computer from all over the world. I will be thinking of you, Missmelis, when we watch Australia. And David when we see New Zealand. And I know there are some here from Europe. And Jerry, I won't make it until 6 AM when it is finally midnight in Hawaii. Enjoy.
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looks like ill be spending the New Years alone but with my cat in my new apartment being grateful i dont have to see xah drunk out of his mind standing outside the house listening to the gunshots from the houses below. my friend is going to be working that night dealing carrds[one of his many jobs] he is sort of a free lancing person. i know the building here will be loud as it was on xmas eve so when new years hits, i think i will yell and slam some cooking pots together!!
happy new year to my dear cyber friends!
My New Year will be quiet, I have had a lovely Christmas the sort a few years ago I could not have imagined because I keep it simple, the same policy for New Year.
Having just passed the big 60, I feel a Serenity despite a few disastorous days since due to a fire that luckily was put out quickly and finding that my ex has been using my good nature to their advantage.
Life has its ups and downs but this wonderful fellowship keeps me focussed on today, the New Year will come with new opportunities and new challenges and I know I can face both equally as long as I keep the focus on me
Quiet-not worrying about where my AD is because she is finally in recovery and has plans with AA friends.
A movie and some snacks until the ball drops? If I make it for the ball drop (can be questionable), I will be in bed by 12:15 the latest as I usually make calls & texts prior to 12.
