The material presented
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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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the first week and half in my new place has had its ups and downs but mostly i was able to solve all my issues. the lanon tools have helped lot. like for overcoming fear, being grateful and first things first when i felt overwhelmed. i did almost get myself in a mess of this old boyfriend who came into my life again being helpful and sweet. i tried to define the extent of our present feelings for each other and almost became clingy but i apoligized nd i think we are ok.. i hope
today i face a challenge. I woke up with a wicked cold. dont need any help as i made appt with my doc for tuesday. AH really hadnt been able to to do anything for me for yrs. i seemed to find a ride to doc and took care of myself. doc is closer to my new place so its easier now
i have to say,despite numerous small details to do, i have been very happy i my new place. havnt laughed,smiled etc for a long time and its felt so good. just got to remember, everyone gets colds.
Breathe .. you have been through so much in a short time. Be very gentle with yourself .. and do not beat yourself up or agonize if you did the right thing or not .. it is such wasted energy. Thank goodness for the program because I can practice self forgiveness and move from there. I would strongly suggest keeping the focus on you .. he's going to do or not do whatever and agonizing over it will only create chaos for you. I have forgotten I do not have to beg, plead or earn someone else's love. I deserve to be loved despite my flaws.
So let us love you until you can love yourself, you totally deserve it! There is no "I hope" .. there is "I am ok. I am lovable just the way I am."
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I got my cold sunday while shopping and it
Messed up my christmas plans.
I am so happy you love your new place. It makes
A big difference. I looked at so many bad rentals
I would have been more depressed.
I too was worried about moving without the help
Of ex and family. Guess what it all worked out
Fine and they have not been to my new place:)
I hired someone and i took only what i needed
And wanted. Many people have stuff when they
Are selling or someone dies or i have borrowed.
All to the good no reminders of home. Fresh
Start, new beginnings.
I am proud of you Alyce, you must ave been
Emotionally Ready to go. Keep grabbing your
Toolbox, i know i do.
Proud of you for persevering and getting to the spot you are at today! Of course it's not all sunshine and daisies, but at least you are no longer in an oppressive place you hate and feeled trapped. You go Alyce!!
I am proud of all 3 of you! Each of you has made a huge change in living status and have done so in spite of fear by using the program, steps, tools, etc. Way to go ladies, way to go!!!
I am very grateful that all of you have also shared your journey. It is so cool to watch change and recovery in progress!
We are all miracles in progress and each day I am here @ MIP, I am so happy to be part of such a lovely family!
(((Group Hug)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Big hug back at you! MIP and alanon gives us the courage and The support we need to make the big jump. Its scary Thats for sure, God has me though and i know it now:)
-- Edited by Mirandac on Sunday 27th of December 2015 02:26:13 PM
