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Lyne


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Merry XMas to all~I have agreed to have dinner with several family members including my older brother who abused me for most of my childhood.  I know I have a choice-never see him and eventually go to his funeral (if he goes first), or try a couple times a year to bring my broken family together.  I am practicing boundaries as I know he is still full of rage, and he thinks what he did to me was just "kids stuff," because I won't see him alone.  I haven't seen him since May at a family gathering.  So wish me luck.  I think the anticipation is worse than when we are actually together.  With the group there he will be nice to me.  Lyne



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Lyne: Just enjoy your day. Don't let your memories of the past w your brother make you feel miserable. Merry Christmas to you!

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You're not alone Lyne...HP is with you always as is MIP...have a great gathering ((((hugs)))) wink

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Lyne - I love what Hoot said - don't let your memories of the past w your brother make you feel miserable. That's a great line - I wrote it down for future reference. My hope is you had a great holiday and enjoyed the day, the company and your holiday meal!

You are not alone and we're just a post away!!

(((Hugs)))

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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Thank you so much for the support and reminders! I did OK. He gave me a hug at the end of dinner. We have a date set in Jan. To talk with my nice brother and this one. I can do it! Love you guys, Lyne

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