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Mirandac


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Facing my truths, owning my part and healing and going forward,

That's a lot of hard work and reflection. I am sitting here listening

to meditation music on you tube.

 

i am so glad to be out of the crazy and that toxic Environment. I

really was close to a An emotional and mental break down. At the

hands of a man 30 years dry and attending AA since 2012. He could

not deal with his stuff in a healthy manner. There are civilized ways

to get out of a marriage. 

 

Now the next step really let go and true forgiveness. He can have his

life as he wants it. Its getting easier to see some light ahead the more

detaching i can do.

 

Just being safe and away from him has helped me heal so much. I trusted

this man that proved to be untrustworthy or worthy, i feel very fooled and

often Very empty inside. I do realize i had my part here too. 

 

Baby steps and Gods love and acceptance will fill me up.

 

Happy holidays everyone and thank you all for your love and support on 

my journey. It has meant a lot when you start to question your own sanity

and Perceptions Of reality.

 



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Mahalo Miranda for the wishes and ESH and same back to you. It is courageous to face the situation and go forward with what is healing for you. Bless you and support and prayers for all of the courage and commitment you need. ((((hugs)))) smile

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(((Miranda)) I do hear you and understand. It is a great gift to witness your growth filled with courage and wisdom every step of your recovery.
So happy you are here and sharing the journey.
I pray that this Season will bring you peace.

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Mirandac


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Thank you both for the love and support.

I am doing meditation music to Get thru
the holidays. The squirrel brain Keeps
running and it helps me a lot. January
1st can not come soon enough.

((((( hugs)))))

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((Hugs)) Hopefully our squirrels take a break soon....they must be getting tired ;) Take care and all the best in 2016

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I kissed a few frogs until I fully fixed my picker. It is hard to be alone through Christmas but even harder to be with the wrong people. I have done both and prefer being alone. I am glad you are taking care of you and spending the time how you choose. Sending you lots of love and support!

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Lots of love Mirandac....I too am looking forward to a better year in 2016. I have also totally trusted people where I should not have and been fooled more times than I care to remember. Hindsight is always 20/20. At this stage of my life I feel I no longer wish to compete for someone's love and attention. I am just trying to do what I feel is best at the moment. (((HUGS)))

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Thank you all for your support. My MIL moved
Into my old home with my xah till spring, she
Sold her place awaiting new place to be ready.

Meantime all the family will be gathering at my
Old home on the holidays it just adds another
dimension. She posts pictues on her timeline
On facebook from there too. At least i know
my Cat is well. Client in today that visited her
There.

As i said before pull up my big girl panties
And let it go :)





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hotrod


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((Mirandac))) That is difficult. Remember that detaching and not checking their silly Face Book page will help. Keep the focus on yourself and your serenity.,



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(((Mirandac))) - great post and thanks for sharing your truth. When I am growing, I seem (at times) to take myself too seriously....working on self and doing step work can be taxing, so make sure you take time out to have enjoyment too! Put some dance music on, and do some dancing - sing outloud to your favorite song, eat ice cream for breakfast - silly rewarding things that help you realize that the changes are for joy - not just change.

I look forward to 2016 as well - I am working to live in the moment for the holiday season and find joy, it's just difficult for those of us affected by this disease. I am enjoying my parents being here as they aren't getting any younger - just trying to find small things to be grateful for and at peace with!

You are doing fantastic and I am glad to be in recovery with you! Take care of you - we're all here for you!

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Mirandac


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Thank you both! Actually i am doing well with
My interactions with people. I am happy again
Unless i let myself think about him then the
Storm clouds come. I push them back!

I enjoy having fun with people I am just not
a social person, old fears probably.

Its scary reinventing yourself socially. Baby
steps, the more program the Stronger i will
get.

I keep hoping to find a good healthy single
friend to do stuff with. Someone that is on
The same path. Most Everybody has their
Own lives. Kids, grand kids and partners.

I know i need to start doing crafts, drawing,
Just finding simple joys again in life. Like
Watching the birds, going for a walk.

The storm clouds are finally lifting



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I think you have done amazing. I hope you have a nice Christmas and a great 2016!

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Mirandac


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Thank you jen you are always so supportive.
I too hope for a better 2016. New beginnings
And all that jazz.

Its scary though i will admit after being married
For 30 years. I feel like a teenager having my own
apt, Its a nice one thank goodness. Its just a very
strange Feeling adjusting to singleness.

((((((( hugs ))))))))

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andromeda


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Miranda, I have followed your journey. This was a beautiful share. I was with my XAH for 23 years. I understand how it feels to be on your own and there is a part that is scary but also a part that is liberating. You will have ups and downs. Feel whatever it is that you need to feel and just trust God (your HP) and do the best you can to take care of YOU. Sending you loving thoughts and lots of hugs tonight, dear one.

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Mirandac


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Thanks bonnie you are braver than i am
Even the thoughts of dating scares me.

I have been here for six months so settled
In. Now i just need to get out more.

I live where there are things going on in
Town and i know i need to stop working
so much, i have crazy hours, that really
isolates Me.

Have a merry christmas

((((( hugs)))))

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andromeda


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No, I'm not braver. Believe me, fear still runs my life, I just choose to walk past it or ignore it. Not sure if that's blind stupidity or a really good coping mechanism, LOL. You will find your place, I promise. I think I was ready to leave a long long time ago so this transition was just easier for me than it has been for you. Use this time to get healthy, figure out what you want, write it down and be specific, ask for what you want in life and pray that it finds you. Life is meant to be lived. Super big hugs and love to you today! ((Miranda))

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