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I am getting tired. I know it is my job to protect my boundaries. The emotional abuse is draining me. I set a boundary and follow through and my ex-A just changes the tactic. I am practicing self-validation just tired.
So sorry truth - mine do that too. I then have to redefine my boundaries to continue self-protection. When there is discomfort, I try really hard to stay in the moment and work to love the person and hate the disease. Detaching and boundaries are critical of course, and more meetings are a great crutch in times of need.
(((Hugs))) - positives thoughts and prayers headed your way from me too!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you everyone ... I am getting better at creating more and more distance. I just get tired sometimes. I am taking a much needed break. Wrote out my new boundaries and felt better. Getting the courage to follow through with the new ones which means I need to rest, eat healthy and exercise to feel ready. For today, I will rest. Wishing all of you a Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays.
My XAH and I have limited contact even though we share a child together. We keep it to pertinent information via email and very rarely through texting. He baits me all the time with pity parties, blame, and accusations. I ignore them and only address what is important and pertaining to our son. He is still emotionally abusive and yes, I am very tired and worn out by it. But, I remind myself that at least I'm not living with it anymore, you know? That is my first step to serenity and sanity.
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
I pretty much have the same situation. I have just come to the point where I am no longer going to tolerate emotional abuse even through e-mail. I was just working on a boundary for that.
