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here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Me ,my sister and be all live here together in my house ,with winter coming on I'm concerned about my heating bill going high and ways to cut it so I read about wearing wool hats or taboggens to keep warm and socks of course so I searched eBay for wool hats and my abf said wool was to hot for here so I found one of my crocheted hats I made and put it on this morning wearing it my addict sister got up and thought I was crazy and went on about me having my crocheted hat on my head I explained to her and my abf that I was just seeing if I could wear it or keep it on my head I decided to lay down cause I gotten up early ,my walls are thin as I lay here I hear my sister whispering to my abf if I was serious about wearing that hat that I was crazy,abf going along with her that I was crazy,I'm talked about in my own house ,even about researching on my internet that I believe everything I read like I'm retarded I research drugs on the streets if I mention that I know anything then I'm criticized that I got that off the internet and that it's not true I since don't Belen e everything I read but some I do.anyways I feel my feelings are not being validated and that I'm crazy and being heard my addict sister and abf Talk about me behind my back,saying I look stupid wearing a hat in my house.........venting ,had to get this out.
lookingup - nothing changes if nothing changes. There are so many Al-Anon tools to assist with living in this disease. I too encourage you to attend a meeting/few and get those tools.
You have the power and choice whether to listen or not and how to let it affect you. I'm not into 'that' but have often felt that those who tear others down do so to build themselves up. Al-anon gives us the tools and steps to build ourselves up while detaching with love and not reacting to others.
(((Hugs))) - keep coming back!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
