The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Loved one-abf,spending more time in bathroom I know he is useing needles,but my sister is now telling me behind his back that I'm in denial when it comes to him I said no reality has its way of always hitting me in the head,and my illness or addiction is my afb I can't say no to him .my sickness is that I allow crap that I dont want or need in my life.then she says that I get mad my sister ,me and my a few all live here together in my house I pay all bills ,I must sound stupid I feel stupid,crazy,insane. Plz I need help bad dealing with not just myself but a addict sister that's addicted to pain pills and a abf doing needles ,and we all live under the same roof.sister thinks that me getting help over and over that it's not helping me that that's me going down the same path that leads to insanity,so its crap if I do and crap if I don't with her. Hugs lookingup
(((lookingup))) Living with the disease of addiction we all become negatively affected and respond in destructive ways to the disease.
The best way for you to regain your serenity and life is to search out meetings and plan on attending. We have them here 2xs a day , so please do attend. Then remember that you are powerless over others so that the way to improve your life is for you to take care of yourself. Detachment and acceptance are the keys to serenity and survival.
Today reading in the Courage to Change reminds us to take care of our physical, mental and emotional well being. Are you doing that?
Coming here sharing helps, daily reading of alanon literature, gratitude and asset lists and daily prayer and mediation are all great tools that will enable you to develop the serenity, courage and wisdom to live a happy life.
I agree with Betty - the best way to change the setting you are in is to change you. The Al-Anon program will help you see alternatives and then do 'better' for you and by you. Many of us stay with our qualifier(s) and still find joy, peace and serenity. For me, this is a direct result of working the program, relying on fellowship and living by the principals. You deserve joy LookingUp and attending meetings is the first step.
(((HUgs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I can tell by your writing that you see lots of red flags with your sis and your boyfriend. And I can see that you are puzzled by what to do when you love them both and you do everything for them, pay all the bills, keep the house together. You do it all. Aren't you getting tired? Come to meetings on this website and/or face to face in your town and listen to what others in your shoes have done to help themselves. You have to take care of yourself and you have to do it yourself. No one is taking care of you while you are taking care of them. Take some time off for yourself. Take care of yourself.
