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The C2C reading for December 17 speaks about the Al-Anon suggestion of praying for those that we feel resentful of. It asks us to consider this because in the beginning, we cannot understand how this can help. The more we persevere in this practice the more we see how effective this tool can be. The simple reason is that we stop praying for people to change, to get them sober make them like me, etc. instead we ask for a new way of thinking about the situation. We pray the serenity prayer, for courage, serenity, wisdom, for ourselves and for the person that we are resentful of as we all deserve that gift.
The reading goes on to point out that resentments mark a place where we see ourselves as victims. It Is important to let them go because they cost us too much in our self-esteem. We must love ourselves enough to release ourselves from the "walled in " place resentment keeps us.
The quote is from: How Can I Help my Children. "If we want to stop the vicious cycle of unhappiness, we must learn new ways of living, new ways of relating to each other."
HP, they have absolutely beautiful children. I know they love them and those kids are blessed to have such devoted parents. I truly pray that as a family they will be happy and well. All of them. Please watch over them all and protect them. From me. That was a joke. Sorry. Please look out from them, seriously.
Love you dude.
Peace out.
Mel.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Today's reading is the one that I summarize easily......Bless Them, Change Me. I use this as needed when I resent another person. I am quite confident in my program to believe their intent is not malicious and therefore, it's my issue, not there's.
I am grateful for the way this program teaches me to look at and consider things differently! Thank you Betty for the daily and also for the ESH!
Miss Mel - your post made me giggle!! But it is a lovely prayer!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
