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my husband has been clean and sober for 25 years. He claims our sex issues have always been a problem for him (ED, Low libido, other problems). Is that common with recovered alcoholics? Does the years of alcohol abuse ruin the way your body reacts and performs sexually. I don't know much about alcoholism
My xah started AA 25 years after being dry it was
A little too late in the game. He attends AA now and
Blames all on me. He did have trouble with ED when
He started really looking at porn. I think he even
Knew it was not healthy thing too much porn.
Embrace alanon to fix you not him, it does you no
Good to try to fix him. There is much to learn at
Alanon mtgs about the disease of alcoholism and
How it effects you. It is our recovery program.
I just read back on your last post the replies were
all On the mark. Take care of you, i could not fix
My xah, he started embracing the addict within
More and more. We were married for thirty years.
For years he seemed normal to a point there were
things I did not like about him, then our life changed
drastically and He was not the man i thought i had
Married.
I will take my side of the blame, it was still a dry alcoholic
marriage in every regard for 30 Years. I did not see or
understand much of this Till i started alanon, really listening,
learning and absorbing at ftf mtgs. It all takes time, there
Are no easy or quick answers with this disease.
It isn't all about alcoholism...I have to do my research also and then do acceptance with what I have found out. I've learned how to love more rather than sex more....there is a difference. ((((hugs))))
My RAH has these issues, he has been off drink for 5 months. He, of course, looked to me to 'fix' him also to blame. I thank God that I have learned it is not my job to 'fix' anyone! Instead my job is to take loving care of myself.
In my experience, no. That applies to me (recovery/sober for 28 years) as well as my AH (sober for a while then relapsed). I believe sexual performance issues are individual and manner factors may affect them/the person....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
