Well it has been extremely chaotic around here for the last several months to say the least.  Escalating drinking and drug issues with AD.  More job losses, evictions, etc etc.  Disease is progressing as you all know it does.  Terrifying to watch.  Every single boundary set was broken.  On a somewhat positive note she did follow through with going to see an addiction counsellor last week and talked about treatment options at my urging. She states she wants to go to treatment since this last job loss, but did not demonstrate to much initiative as upset about wait times.    Government funded treatment wait times are horrendous.  Minimal 6 to 8 weeks, up to 4 months.  Private centers have waits of about 4 to 5 days.  We decided to offer to pay for private again.  By the time we had decided to offer this she had began to act in a much more reasonable manner as the alcohol/drugs had wore off.  She did take the initiative this time, made the call, and started to prepare for leaving in a few days.  The center has already recommended she not return to this area at all and plan to start over in that area with a possible stay in a sober living house post discharge.  (Its about 15 hours away) We are in support of that option if she chooses it.  Yesterday she left the house with the intention of some xmas shopping and a few things needed.  She did not return.  She did contact stating she would be home the next day and still wants to go to treatment.  Spouse is livid.  He wants to call it all off and kick her to the curb to find her own way.  I of course being the goodl alanoner tried to reason with her while under the influence.  That's two hours of my life I will not be getting back.  She was adamant she was going to carry on doing what she was doing and would be home the next day with an intention to go to treatment on the designated day.  Flight is already booked.   I feel very conflicted.  On one hand I once again am surprised by the power the disease has over her and that she took off as was being so reasonable up to then.  On the other hand I am not surprised at all. Addicts lie and do what they do irregardless of the consequences.    I am not taking it personally.  She is sick and it just reinforced in my mind how serious the situation is and her need for treatment as she really cant string together more then a few days of sobriety even with supervision.  I just want to go ahead with the plan to get her on the plane yet husband is reluctant and feels like she is manipulating me and that it is a complete waste of money at this point.  I would love some ESH from you all.