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Hello, it's been awhile since I posted. My ah moved out in July and has been taking meds and seeing specialist and maybe has been sober two months this time. Before the holidays my family where all going to be in different places and I was going to run up to the mountains by myself. Then my ah and I were getting along so I invited him too go.. He had slowly been staying at the house 5 days a week. Not sure how that happened.. Well then y parents decided to come to my house for thanksgiving and leave dec7th and various family is coming in and out during this time. Well my ex got his feelings hurt when I told him I couldn't go to the mountains and he got his feelings hurt because he can't be at the house all the time. He blames my family but really it is the way he treated everyone (u know how they act). Kinda am over my head right now my family hates him and thinks he is nuts and why can't I just get rid of him. My ah hates them for intruding on his space and I am stuck in the middle and want to sell the house and run away. But run where? How don't stand up for yourself when you are so tired. I work with my ah too he is actually teaching me my job...if I say anything he won't teach me what I need to know for work and that is not good. I am so lost sometimes..to be honest I am to tired for meetings and more therapy. After work and kid duties I am exhausted. I don't like him their is no romance just complains and talk of work. How do I stop all this? I keep going back and forth and dragging my daughter along to the ride. I need strength when I just don't have anymore.
(((HelpAngel))) - it sounds as if you might need to do a refresh/restart (kind of like a computer)....
If nothing changes, then nothing changes. Getting active in Al-Anon, working the steps and getting a sponsor can help you find you (again) which will lead you back to a point of strength.
It took me a while to realize that Yes and No are complete sentences.
Keep coming back - find local meetings and take care of you. You are worthy and worth it!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I agree with I Am Here Meetings work. Reading literature , living in the moment and the day . prayer,and gratitude all helped to change my attitude and my life .
There is an alanon reading that states" Being too tired " means that we need to go to more meetings. I found that to be true The more meetings I attended the more energy I had .
