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This is something I have hardly ever had to do since advancing to be a supervisor. I have too much need to be liked and people please and make everyone happy. I did it though. It was demanded by the rehab owner that I fire one of my therapists...not totally without cause. I still hated it and felt and still feel crappy about it. Some of this is clearly Coda stuff. Reminds me of when I used to stay in bad relationships because I was afraid of hurting the other person's feelings. I got over that. Maybe I will get over this...maybe not. Dunno.
HI Mark Firing someone is never easy. You are a kind, compassionate, generous person and taking such a drastic action ,even for cause, is difficult.
This distasteful measure is part of your job description and goes with the other huge responsibilities for which you are held accountable .
I believe that the best you can do is make sure the firing was reasonable, and within corporate guidelines. If so then, it is part of your managements responsibilities.
I admire you for feeling this way as it is evidence of your open heart Positive thoughts on the way
I too admire you for what you had to do and still having empathy for the individual you had to let go. You did what you had to do, sending you good thoughts as well.
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
A very trying and difficult situation indeed. The fact that it is wearing on you speaks to your empathy for others. I am sure you handled it with grace and dignity.
Sorry about that pinkchip - I hated letting folks go....it was easier for me after time and easier yet with cause.
What really stunk was having to do lay-offs when they were hard working dedicated employees. That kept me awake for many nights and had to do it several times. I was told to pray for them and pray for acceptance. One of many reasons I left the Corporate World....it was too impersonal for my taste!
My hope is you recover soon - I'll add you to my prayers tonight!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hugs .. It is not easy to be in that position however I still say you don't know what that other persons journey is and what lessons they need to learn. Plus this is a life lesson for you as well. Whatever their journey I have no doubt you did your best to be the best you possible. Hugs.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
