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It's been a little over a week since I broke up with the man I had been dating. I have been doubling up on my meetings and looking for positive things to do. He has been texting me that he loves me and that he is sorry abt what had happened and that he wants me. I met with him a couple of days ago and we talked. When he hugged me hello my body felt repulsed by him. At the end of dinner. I told him I could not see him anymore and that it was not going to work out. My body was literally rejecting him. I hadn't felt that feeling since my exAh. I'm ok for today. I'm starting to walk and be more kind with my words to myself. Things happen without explanations before I would have been in complete isolation at home and not returning any calls from friends. But today I am not like that my HP gives me bravery to move on. Thank you for letting me share :)
To thine own self be true. This is a great example of courage in action. You've been honest, chosen your own wants and needs in an uncomfortable situation. Funny, how our dis-ease signals us that something isnt right for us. You've honored yourself and the other person by moving on.
I like what you said about not isolating with the feelings. That kind of acceptance is one of the gifts we're promised if we work this program. You risked to know someone and now you know yourself more than you did before. Yes, you are brave. You've made room now for something or someone reflective of your own recovery to enter. Thanks for sharing your progress. ((hugs))) TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
texasgal - thank you for your lovely share and update. I see through your experience that your HP is leading you, and you are doing remarkably grand!
I love what TiredTonite has stated - To thine own self be true. I am not always sure why it works the way it does, but when I consider my own needs first, I feel better and confident, and things around me go better too.
So glad to hear of your self-care too - keep up the program work - you wear it well!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene