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el-cee


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One of the symptoms or shortcomings that came into my awareness early on in alanon was my immaturity. I seriously had a really child like view of what my world should look like. Maybe i was exposed to a bit too much tv, disney or fairytales about princesses and happy ever afters.

I wanted the fairytale and truly believed it would happen for me. A macho man would save me from my unhappiness, protect me from the big bad world, love and adore me making sure i was happy, cared for in every way possible. I was the star in this fairytale, feminine, sensitive, in need of being looked after.

i wanted to be able to depend i  this super hero of mine to meet my every need and desire. I wanted to be like a child, precious and innocent while my man was rugged and tough. Lol. 

I got exactly what i needed to dispel this craziness. An alcoholic!!!! Thank God he came along and repeatedly never met my needs!!!! Im grateful for his inability to protect, love, cherish me like i thought he should. Can you imagine the type of woman i would be if he was prince charming? An adult baby thats what. Lol.

So, today i am independant, can look after all my needs, dont expect anyone else to. I am fiesty, can speak my truth, i can be kind and caring without over doing, over dramatising life. Ive put the mills and boon books and disney down  now. I can accept life in all its true colours for the most part all thanks to alcoholism leading me to my spiritual program of alanon. So so so grateful. 

 



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Ooooo, so it wasn't just me then?! I love this El-cee, thank you.

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Thank you El-cee for your ESH and Al-Anon, for helping me to see the real world.

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(((LC))) love your honesty I agree thanks HP for providing me with the opportunity to grow in wisdom , courage an serenity while I lived and learned how to thrive while dealing with this dreadful disease.
My sister, also read many fairy talesaww and married an alcoholic she often said that :" She kissed a Prince and he turned into to Toad" Fairy tales had it the other way around :confuse



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Love your share and journey

((((( elcee ))))

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the way things are in my life has been the same..three times i hoped the guy i married would take care of me after my horrible childhood BUT it didnt come true..in fact, i took care of them so completely, they became dependant on my skills . Then of course wen i needed support,encouragement etc they were woefully inadequate to the task. now im there again and cant wait to escape..but still wondering what i can make of my life that will make me happy.. i stand at the fork in this road and wonder if i can be happy by myself or will i just be alone and still miserable?

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All I can say is AMEN......I have become so very aware of how my view of life, love and happiness were warped beyond reality.

The program has given me the clarity to see that it's between me & God on how fulfilled I am and feel each moment of each day. Nobody can make me happy, sad, mad, etc. It's how I choose to see it, receive it and act/react about it. I no longer like giving my power away to anyone for any reason at any time.

Great share El-Cee - spot on, spot on!

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there's something to this share of yours el-cee. I am wondering right now in my life, where we, humans, ger our preconceived ideals from, especially the subtle ones. It doesn't perhaps matter why so much as deciding no more,it doesn't fit, but realisation is priceless. Magical thinking has been a sabotaging companion. Tyfs this.



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Thank you El-cee for your thought inspiring words! I too married my prince charming who swept in on a white steed to save me from distress. Or, so I thought...reality was I was delivered to a new and unfamiliar stress. But life on life's terms and the journey is allowing me to test myself in new ways and find that I am stronger than I thought. I wouldn't trade the journey.

Thanks again!

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Thanks for sharing. I am at that point right now actually. Working on forgiving. It is difficult but I am glad people like you share. It gives such hope!



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