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It's been awhile since I've last posted, but I do try to read your posts a couple of times each week. There continues to be so much amazing support going on this online community- and such great examples of working our programs and keeping the focus on ourselves. Kudos to all of you!
As for me, I'm doing pretty darn well. I've finally settled into my new job after nine months of thinking that I had made a big mistake by taking this new position. Using my Al-Anon program tools has helped me so much in getting to this feeling of serenity at my workplace. My boss is still crazy, and could well be an A, but that's really not for me to worry about. I am thankful to be in a place that feeds my creativity and is much less stressful than my previous position.
And I've finally started to venture out socially after losing 10 pounds that needed to finally come off. My confidence level is now to the point that I feel good in "my own skin" and also feel good inside, too. So I've joined a couple of Meet Up groups, including one for widows and widowers. I've met some really nice people and am finally ready to be open to the dating scene. I have my first one early next week and another one later in the week. Might as well really start swimming if you're going to jump into the deep end of the pool! Neither of these two guys seems to be what I would consider "my type," but really, I don't even know what my type is anymore, so what the heck, right?
My AD and I are still estranged and I continue to practice detachment with her, but my other two daughters and their families are all doing great and I even found out last month that my 4th grandchild will be arriving in June. So exciting! I just love being a "Grammy." It is such a blessing and helps me to keep a positive focus in my life.
So life is good and I am so grateful for having this program and being a part of this amazing community. To think that almost five years ago I had just separated from my AH and did not have a dime to spare. I'm still a work in progress, but the progress is happening!
Peace,
GE
-- Edited by Green Eyes on Wednesday 4th of November 2015 08:49:35 PM
So very nice to hear from you Green Eyes. Your update touched my heart as it was so real and inspiring. I am glad you are venturing into dating scene and are aware you do not know what our type truly is.
Over 26 years ago I stated the same an said the man I am still with was definitely not my type (He wasn't-- he did not drink or curse :) ). We have have an amazing relalationship, one day at a time and I wish that you find the same
Keep on keeping on You are so worth it.,
Hey Green Eyes - great to see ya and love hearing all the progress in your life/program/job/etc. It sounds like you've found your serenity and are working it!!
I am still married but still have no clue what 'my type' is or would be......so happy to see you being ready to explore and have fun.
Keep coming back - and keep working on your program - you are truly a Miracle in Progress.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I've finally settled into my new job after nine months of thinking that I had made a big mistake by taking this new position. Using my Al-Anon program tools has helped me so much in getting to this feeling of serenity at my workplace. My boss is still crazy, and could well be an A, but that's really not for me to worry about. I am thankful to be in a place that feeds my creativity and is much less stressful than my previous position.