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Thanks, Debb!
Another great one, and perfect for me to read today!
I had a great and short chat with AW last night, in which she promised to do ALL the perfect things when she gets out of jail next week. I have been second-guessing myself and my wishes all morning, and trying to balance making decisions that are right for me with not rushing into things with allowing myself to change my mind...
Reading this reminded me that I am not supposed to do something, I am supposed to sit here Be patient, give myself time to decide what I really want.
And, not get caught up in the promise of another fairy tale ending before the story starts.
Happy Saturday!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
All I know is that when I stay on my side of the street and allow me and others to be human as we are, I have peace....and peace for me is Freedom. The more I do this, the more peace and freedom I feel and I grow. What a great cycle to be a part of. I have the choice to own any setbacks and to learn and keep moving forward.
I don't want to ever go back to where I was. I enjoy myself, my life and my place in this world. I am truly Happy, Joyous and Free!!
(((Hugs))) to all - I am taking my nephew (60 days sober) to my Sunday meeting tomorrow morning. He's a great kid and truly wants to be clean/sober. I will be getting my 28 year coin and he's excited to be a part of it.....who would have ever thought this?
I mention this as I have not included my blood family in my sober family --- until now. I've invited my boys to meetings but they've never wanted to go/be a part of 'my world'. It is through Al-Anon that instead of celebrating alone I can be proud and confident enough to include another who needs as many program friends as possible right now.
Thank you Al-Anon for helping me be a better person who has confidence in herself and can stretch beyond my comfort level!!!
Freedom sure feels good!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
it is so hard in this situation of mine to listen to myself and to own what i want in my life. The only thing im sure of is what i dont want. Yet this is so painful. my dear bro in law says i have todo what i think is best for me. Ive had some werid turnarounds with people lately so i know my HP has been real busy dealing with me
(((Alyce))) - what you describe is close to my experience - I often don't know exactly what I want or need but by process of elimination, I can surely identify and recognize what I don't want or need. So glad to see that you 'feel' HP working in your life. Keep leaning that way and the answers will come!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I still have to work on tolerating people being unhappy with my decisions. Because I had an abusive brother in childhood and into adulthood in less severe ways, that brother being unhappy had dire consequences for me. Now, many years later, I am improving, but once in awhile the old fears creep in. I'm able to be true to myself and stick with my decisions, but sometimes I suffer a bit until I know what the outcome is. I plan to make more progress in alanon. Progress not perfection ODAT, Lyne
Be patient, give myself time to decide what I really want. 
