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Debb


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I work with a woman who has very serious confidence issues,

and who considers me her only friend, in an otherwise hostile

work environment (in her mind of course).  I try very hard to

remain neutral and supportive, but there are times, like today

where my good nature smile is tested to the max!  I do try to

impress upon her to QTIP, she works in an Admin IT role, so

there are always plenty of grumbling when we are asked to

stop what we are doing to add more steps to our jobs.  Just

venting today!  Trying to place her in her HP's hands, because

I caught the tail end of her wrath today.  {{HUGS}} 



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Debbie
Iamhere


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Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh my friend Debb - I've got positive vibes coming your way and prayers for some quick peace to ya! So sorry that you are the 'chosen friend' for this gal....you must radiate peace and calm for her to find you!!

Hopefully she will come back by at some point and apologize. If not, I bet you are grateful you have a program!!

(((Hugs)))

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Debb


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Thank you !! You were right, she called tonight to apologize and
I am so grateful for this program!! {{HUGS}}



-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:23:06 AM

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Debbie
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Thanks, Debb...
Hell hath no fury like an IT Admin spurned...and they can mess you up! Haha, way to hang in there...

I do not believe it to be coincidence that the times I am able to work an AlAnon approach, things work themselves out and others end up apologizing instead of me...

AlAnon is helping me become the person I always thought I was and wanted to be...grateful indeed (ties back to your post yesterday)

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"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives."  - Paths to Recovery 
Debb


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So right Paul, thank you for your support and service here on MIP
very much appreciated



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Debbie
Iamhere


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Debb - how cool is that? You stayed in your own truth and she owned her part and made amends.

God is good when we can work our program and how about the end result? Perfect (OK - progress....not perfection) outcome!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
Ifnotforgrace


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GFU for not reacting and making a bad situation worse. We know people will not always treat us as they should & may on occasion take their frustrations out on us. We too will likely do that to someone else along our way. The great thing is being able to understand that it's not personal, its about circumstances of THEIRS and the Great news is that when given the chance..most folk are decent enough to see their mistakes and rectify them to the best of their ability, but even IF they don't..I still need to not let THEIR issues effect my serenity and thanks to the program I have the 3 P's (Pause, Pray and Proceed) to help me do that. You did the right thing Deb..You spoke your truth here..in a supportive environment, paused..did not react and pour fuel on her fire and she..in turn made amends. PROGRAM at work!

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Debb


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Thank you Iam and INFG, yes the program works!!



-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:23:22 AM

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Debbie
cwya


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this new acronym QTIP is unfamiliar to this very old oldtimer. Can someone help me out and tell what it means?



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Mirandac


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quit taking it personal

Some people carry a qtip
To remind themselves.

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