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Hi Cindy, Welcome to MIP I am sorry that you and your family are caught up with the dreadful cycle of the disease of alcoholism.This is a chronic, progressive disease that can be arrested but never cured. W, as parents must understand that we are powerless over the disease in our children. That we did not cause it, cannot control it and cannot cure it.
There are free detox hospitals and rehabs for your daughter and since living with this disease is extremely difficult, family members also require a program of recovery . Alanon is that program. The best I can suggest for you is that you can search out alanon face to face meetings in your community and attend. The hot line number is in the white pages.
Prayers and positive thoughts on the way.
Aloha Cind this is a great part of the insanity of this disease and while the alcoholic is in control with their chemical there isn't much anyone can do. They defy everything and direct themselves toward the fatal consequences of it. Alcohol and alcoholism is fatal which awareness was part of my acceptance when married to my alcoholic/addict wife and then with all of the other alcoholic relationships I was in. There is hope and that come from within the love and attention of a power much greater than your daughter and her willingness and commitment to be chemically free and working with others who are sober and can show her how to do that herself. I have empathy for you and your family...been there and done that and have gone to the funerals and courts and hospitals also. There is no light side to alcoholism...we smile and laugh after they get sober and clean and remain that way.
Prayers and sober wisher for you and her and the family. If you haven't already...go to the white pages of your local telephone book and look up the hotline number for Al-Anon and then call it to find out where and when we get together in your area. Keep coming back to MIP in the mean time. (((((hugs)))))
Welcome Cind - so glad you found us here at MIP and glad you found the courage to share.
I too believe the Al-Anon program is your best bet for gaining strength and tools to live your life and detach from the disease. It's hard and uncomfortable, but necessary as this disease sucks in the family and loved ones as it progresses.
Keep coming back and know that you are not alone. F2F (Face to face) meetings were a huge gift as I felt welcomed and loved from Day 1.
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
