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fij


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This week has been so low after more than 40 years i finally admitted no myself i really don't want to live like this any more. i have lost family members friends relationships all because i dont know how to say no! 



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Debb


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Fiji, welcome to MIP.  Glad you found us and glad you shared with us as well.

What is it that you have finally come to terms with?

Al-anon is for those of us who are/have been dealing with the disease of

alcoholism.  The program is one that is practiced by learning the slogans,

prayers and by working the 12-steps.  We come to learn about our role in

the disease and how we can live with more peace and clarity in the face

of the disease and the chaos that is causes us.  Have you joined a local

face to face meeting yet?  



-- Edited by Debb on Saturday 26th of September 2015 12:13:09 PM

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Jerry F


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Aloha Fij and welcome to the board...glad you are here.  stick around for a day and then one more if you care to.  Learning how to say no was surprisingly simple for me after I admitted I had become as dumb as a stick upon entering the doors of the Al-Anon Family Groups.

"No is a complete sentence"...what a rocket science statement...really.  "If I didn't know how or when to say it...practice, practice, practice saying it...nicely."  I learned to love the sound of it and how easily it rolled off my tongue when I said it and if it needed to be changed at a later time I could change it.   REMARKABLE!!  Keep coming back.

((((hugs)))) smile



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Skorpi


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Welcome, Fij!

I am working on learning to say no myself. Practice, practice, and practice some more is my motto.

(((hugs)))

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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Iamhere


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fij -

I too welcome you to MIP! So sorry that you're at a low point - rock bottom is the title of your post.

Know that you are not alone! I too used to fear the potential rejection of saying No. So, I didn't often enough and when I came to Al-Anon, I too realized how much I had to learn.

Keep coming back - there is hope in recovery, one day at a time!

Glad you are here!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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