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I have a challenge for all of you. I am going to try not to complain this coming week. One day at a time will you join me on this quest? I really need support in this area. It is not easy to do because we all find things to complain about: the weather, the traffic, whatever. I could think of so many things but then again, maybe I should try letting all this stuff go. I am giving myself a shot. It could start for me just not complaining that my food is too cold. It seems simple but it is a real challenge.
Keep in mind that you don't have to do a perfect job. You will be amazed how much better you feel. I have been thinking about this for two days. So far so good. I feel that if I start to blow it, I will get back on track.
So, consider this as you go through your day. Don't keep track. You will notice a difference. It is amazing.
I have been working extra hard on my thinking lately,it has been a stressful month.I found a real interesting free app on the google chrome web store.It is called bliss,it has exercises for positive thinking.I check in every morning and do the exercises. There is a gratitude journal,three good things,transforming problems,plus many others.I love it,I find it very helpful to have something to prompt me,as I sometimes get stuck in my thinking.It helps me start my day with positive thoughts.
Count me in too! Sounds like a great challenge with nothing but positives for the outcome...
Thanks for the challenge and the great idea!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Oh how I needed to read this today! This is me.....the one who complains incessantly and hates doing it! I know that makes no sense, but I understand why and how. I had already decided that today was the beginning of a new time....again, and though I am still facing many of the same extreme challenges, a few of the "biggies" have been lifted. The last month has been awful for me and to be around me I'm sure.
Last night I asked my rah some questions and he was honest (that in itself is a strange change) as his sobriety date was April 12th of this year. He has been withdrawn and moody more than normal and going to a lot more meetings. I am happy about this and asked if I was "Doing any better" on my part of the relationship...to which he responded that I had been trying. After discussing it some more, he is correct in that I nave reverted back to the constant complaining......however, he did not consider the strain that has been put on me lately...nor has he been doing his part at home to lighten the load.
I've given it a great deal of thought and I agree that I have not been what I want to be and I am working on me! His issues are his...so long as they don't sabotage my recovery (as I have to admit I have probably been unintentionally doing to him). We have so many issues sometimes.
For today, I will do my best to be positive and as cheerful as I can be in dealing with all things and all people. I will use the tools I have been given to help me deal with the issues at hand and will reduce my burdens as I can by working through them one at a time. I will try to let go of things that "don't matter" and concentrate on the issues that I can change for the good.
Tomorrow will come....God willing, and I will deal with it as best I can.
Thank you for this topic and this post. It feels very good to not be alone in my "problems". I can honestly say I feel sad that my behavior has caused harm to others ..... Even if it is just mental stress. Thank God I can see that with more clarity now. I needed this badly!!!
So far, so good for me!!! I had to laugh - I played in a softball tournament on Sunday, and the umpire made a horrific call. I was catching at the time and I opened my mouth, and before I could say anything, remembered this challenge. So I closed my mouth and just shook my head side to side....I know most of the umpires, so he said, "What?" And I said, "Are you sure about that last call Blue?"
He asked me if I was sick and I said No....just doing a challenge with friends where I am not complaining. He busted a gut laughing and said, "Well - we will never know then, will we?" I had to just smile and walk away. It did not affect the game and even if it had, there are many others who can do that job for me!!!
Thanks Hoot for the challenge - it certainly helped keep me serene in a moment that I might have been otherwise....and - if I can zip it during sports, I've got a good chance at success for the longer term - eh?
Happy Tuesday to one and all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks I am here for your share. It encouraged me to continue the challenge. I am struggling a bit. It is so funny that I start some of sentences w I am not trying to complain or I am not complaining but.... it is funny how easy it is to start that way. But then sometimes I try to get right to gratitude. Thanks also for you all sharing in this challenge.
Just finished reviewing my "Just For Today" pamphlet which I love and which has done so much in my recover....memorized it. You're growing Kath and it looks good on you. (((((hugs)))))
Well - I have learned (took many many years) that if I just keep my mouth shut, most things go much better. My brain seems to want to react impulsively so, so often and it's always been that way. I have done some major complaining in my head since we started this and got a bit out of sorts over a 'invited members only book study' (my eyes are rolling about this....) but have been doing reasonably well.
Who knows - I woke up a bit restless and irritable today and am tired and anxious as my son/DIL have a baby due today. So - all week - they've been freaking out and I've tried to be a calming force. I've been hiding today as I don't 'feel it'! Just for today!
(((Hugs))) to all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
We are still on baby watch....*sigh*.....and well - unfortunately my son and his baby-mamma seem to enjoy drama! So - she is getting induced tonight (thank you God) and I have their first born. He's on the other couch with a huge bowl of popcorn watching cartoons! He's happy as can be and I'm so glad we're almost done with this pregnancy!!!
Thanks for asking! We had a dramatic moment this morning and my son is not speaking to me (what else is knew?) right now....It happens so often that it's expected!
(((Hugs to all)))!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I will try this as of today too.
I complain so much lately even I am sick of my whinging!
After complaining all winter about the cold we finally got some hot weather this past week and I've been moaning that I'm hot....LOL
Challenge accepted...
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
