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It's been a while hasn't it. I come and read but don't post too much....my bad.
A little about what has been happening to me. I got a really nice raise at work but in the talk I got called out for my attitude. I was asked to be not so up front and in your face to co-workers. I do a great job they but PLEASE ( lets say keep my mouth shut ). Many of us here have a real problem with one employee and I got so mad the other day I called him out. We were both pissed and it didn't end well. The problem is everyone doesn't get along with him but they keep their mouths shut. Cathy doesn't..... my bad. Well I have been working on MY problem and lets say I will do better and become more professional in the future.
My son is doing well. He is now officially a peer counselor. Got the badge and everything . He also put together curriculum ( 8 week class ) on Self Awareness, pitched it to the powers to be and was granted the class. He has 13 inmates signed up so far. He is so hoping it will go well but if not nothing lost and everything to gain for himself. Like he said " I can't fail " because I'm already a winner and if I can get though to even one inmate and help he will be grateful and blessed. He continues to write for the prison paper and he also had his picture taken with the warden for his efforts and example he is setting for others. He still works at the BLM horse ranch training horses and still continues to bail hay ( even though he doesn't have to ) to stay strong and healthy. Welding and his creative writing classes gives him some stills for the future. Yeah he still wants to write a book.
I still read my Al-anon books and go to one meeting a week. I've worked the program by myself ( never did get a sponsor ) but I confide with a person that helps me a lot when need be. Will this hurt me when things change....like my son getting out of prison....who knows but I will stay the course and do the best I can to never go back to 2 years ago. Scared and worried are my worse enemies.
Thank you MIP for all the support you have given me over these last few years. I hope to give back in some way to others in need.
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Aloha sister...I caught the "I've worked the program by myself ( never did get a sponsor )" part and my ocean liner horn blew cause I remember being there myself and then having to answer the question "why is that and what do you expect to get out of it"? When I looked at what I was getting out of it I came to understand what was said about self-sponsoring and owning consequences. Sucked!!! started following the suggestions and the consequences were great. Good to hear from you and glad your son is doing so well. ((((hugs))))
Thanks for checking in! Sounds like things are going pretty well for you and also for your son. As far as your statement about giving back in the program, posts like this that show progress from working Alanon and the AA program are a great way to inspire others to keep coming back because the program works if you work it.
Congratulations on your raise at work. It's so hard to detach sometimes in workplaces and practice tolerance. You're certainly not alone concerning attitude improvement. It can be tough working with so many personalities. Unlike in our personal lives, where there is more of a chance to pick and choose who we're around; we can't do that at work.
It wonderful news about your son too. I hope he continues doing well. He sounds like he really wants it, Cathy. Here's hoping he keeps walking the walk with his hp.
Thanks for sharing your news and choosing to keep recovering here with me! ((hugs))) TT
-- Edited by tiredtonite on Tuesday 22nd of September 2015 01:56:50 PM
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What a great share - congratulations to you for your raise at work and congratulations to your son for his effort to change his tune and to help others! Sounds wonderfully awesome!
So glad you checked in - keep coming back - the sharing is giving back...
If you love your program without a sponsor, you will me mesmerized with one! I too went for a while without one and the before and after are very different - life changing.
Glad you are a part of our MIP family!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
. He also put together curriculum ( 8 week class ) on Self Awareness, pitched it to the powers to be and was granted the class. He has 13 inmates signed up so far. He is so hoping it will go well but if not nothing lost and everything to gain for himself. Like he said " I can't fail " because I'm already a winner and if I can get though to even one inmate and help he will be grateful and blessed. He continues to write for the prison paper and he also had his picture taken with the warden for his efforts and example he is setting for others. He still works at the BLM horse ranch training horses and still continues to bail hay ( even though he doesn't have to ) to stay strong and healthy. Welding and his creative writing classes gives him some stills for the future. Yeah he still wants to write a book.
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