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Live and let live is a powerful slogan. I could let others live withhout my advise or interference. Learning how to truly "Live" myself with courage, serenity and wisdom is still an ongoing process. One day at a time, trusting HP, while turning my will over works in this department as well.
This is a slogan I can certainly use more in my battle to change old habits. Staying out of things I should not try to control is a fundamental part of the program and has been an area of focus in my recovery. Staying within my own circle has made a dramatic impact in my life and those to me, and using this slogan as shorthand for what I need to do will help me continue to grow. Thanks Debb
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
For me, Live and Let Live is all about the practice of detaching with love. It took me a while to figure out that by allowing others to walk their truth and stay out of their way, I had more time and brain-space to live my own life. It wasn't super comfy at first, but now, I enjoy seeking peace and joy in each moment presented in each day.
This has become a morning one for me as my AH retired the first of the month. He's had a traveling job for our entire marriage (and before) so we've never spent this much time together in a row, in the same home, day in and day out.....Al-Anon has given me the grace to have success with this - and believe you me - this would have (and did) scare the heck out of me for a long, long while before the program.
We did not properly plan for this; he just did all the paperwork without telling me and God bless us all - he's now home/here every day!!! I have to admit - it's been much, much better than I ever projected it to be!
So, I am having many moments each day to lean on this program and the tools! What a blessing, what a blessing....
One Day at a Time - right MIP family?
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
