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Happy Friday to you Debb! Thanks for the lovely thread - as with almost all other slogans, this one was a game-changer.
In my never-ending quest for perfection prior to the program, I gave equal importance to most things. Of course, this was a recipe for disaster. I had no focus and was constantly feeling like a failure as I always bit off more than I could chew - each day - and well beyond my own scope.
This helps me stay in the now and within my own hoola-hoop. It helps me realize that if I keep the focus on what's important to me and my HP, and align my efforts accordingly, I can have happiness and peace.
Your service is greatly appreciate my friend - have a super day...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Deb, It is interesting to see how easy it was for me to twist ideas to a negative vision for my own use .
I used the slogan "How important is it" prior to entering program, because I had no other tools. Anything, I wanted, needed , thought or believed, I dismissed as "unimportant". I was a minimalist when it came to myself and my needs so as not to react to the insanity I was living with. I had no other tools.
Alanon gave me other tools such as:" Live one day at a time, focused on yourself,with a daily asset and gratitude list .
With these simple tools my self esteem grew and I could differentiate between what was a mountain or a mole hill and respond accordingly.
Thank you alanon Now I can smile when I hear this slogan and use it effectively.,
