The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The good part: Well.... I did it...sort of..well I will be doing it......called a phone number that a friend gave me to a friend of hers that has been going to al anon meetings for years...she was very delightful to talk to......she said she would sit with me at the f2f Sat morning and even hold my hand if I needed her to..she is an elderly woman..I get along well and always have since i was in my teens with the elderly....so it should be a good friendship, I was in tears after the call but good tears........whew...scared to death but I am going to do it
The sucky part: After this and feeling pretty good about it... I came home. Got on my facebook account. Well last week some of you know I got a tattoo...AH was not thrilled with it. Anyway I posted a picture of it for my friends. And got a lot of compliments. Well today while i was at his mothers house...a week later he decided to comment on the photo. and here is what he had posted.
whatever... People with tattoos don't get enough attention. Of course, if Debra ever got off of her computer long enough, I would give her some attention. Just saying, not complaining. I love her no matter what she does to her body.
And of course he was drinking when he did it and wasted when i got home....and I had to open my mouth when i saw that and start something.......uggggh...ooops......he just knows the pressure points...and its been too quiet around here lately...I was going to delete his comment but changed my mind and just replied...whatever back.....
This just gave me all the more reason to want to go to that f2f meeting on Sat.
(((Debra))) So happy that you contacted the alanon member and intend to attend on Saturday. Good work. Learning how to" respond" and not "react" is a true gift of this program You did well.
(((Debra))) - way to go to make that phone call! That's a great next step towards your recovery journey. I also applaud you for making plans to go to the meeting. Please let us know how it goes - I think you will find it as pleasant as we are!!!
So sorry about the drama at home. My ESH for you - as I began working the program and using the tools, the home environment improves 1000%. As I learned to not react and to detach, things changed. Slowly but they changed. In my home, if my As didn't have someone to dance with, they stopped/it reduced dramatically.
Hang in there - again way to take the step to make that call! So happy for you....
Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I am glad you have a buddy to go to an al anon meeting with. Sometimes it is very easy for another person to get under our skin. Addiction can bring so much emotion into every conversation. Learning to see how you react, is a hard thing but it sounds like your on the right path. Keep at it!!!
Congrats Debra keep working the program. I too am sorry for the chaos at home, but you know that detachment is the best way to handle it! We learn from experience and the program. Everyday is a new day, so take it one day at a time.
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Oh Debra, so proud of you and although you opened your mouth you are still realizing how it may have been different if you wouldn't of. I can't wait to hear all about your F2F meeting. I am sure it'll be all good.
