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I quit the new job


I quit my new job this morning. The job wasn't the job I wanted but it was the one I was offered. I had decided to keep an open mind and give it a chance. On the surface it looked to be a good job with lots of potential. They said it was a newly created position and it sounded to me like a position where I could add value. I guess in the interview process the interviewers spoke mostly about their objectives and asked me to discuss my resume.  Maybe I didn't ask enough questions concerning processes such as how I would get from A to B. It's because of the "how" that this opportunity fell apart. It seems their technology is very out of date and daily work is cumbersome for employees. Customer satisfaction is at the forefront but as you may guess just as with Alanon, it's difficult to build trust in relationships if you don't have tools you can trust. This is not a new company or new system. It's how they do business. Of course they aren't going to share this kind of thing in an interview. 

It was a sad decision for me but the right one to leave this job.  It's progress to move on quickly rather than use manipulation of the facts to paint a prettier picture and stay in a job that will be a miserable experience.  I woke up this morning with a job and within a few hours made a conscious decision to become unemployed again.

I think it's better for me to devote my time to finding a right fit job than languishing in a lost opportunity. I overstayed many personal relationships before Alanon and even as a newcomer because of fear that there wouldn't be anything better out there.  I overstayed at my last job hoping things would get better with new management.  Anticipating the potential of others just gets me in trouble.  Living in the present, praying for guidance then taking the next right action to honor myself and my serenity has been something dependable for me - GOD good orderly direction.  

I know this is hp's will because although I feel disappointed that it wasn't what I hoped, I feel calm and relieved and very optimistic about the future of my job search. Thanks for letting me share with you.  TT

 

 



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(((((Tired)))))  That is sometimes how things work out for us...Make a decision and follow thru...quitting a job is not a crime.   (((hugs))) smile



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(((TT)) I admire your courage and ability to validate yourself Good job.

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TT, I too admire your courage and hope the next job is a perfect one for you!

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You gave it a shot and now you know. Kudos for knowing yourself well enough to walk way when it didn't feel right for you! Good luck in your search :)

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Tired,  I can so relate to this. I am currently on a short term disability from my job. I have been at this job now for 2 years... I am supposed to return to work around the 16th of the month or the 21st.. I have yet to decide if I will actually return or not...I have anxiety panic disorder and have a hard time going to places with a lot of people...well they just hired a lot of people and are trying to cram 4000 people in for all shifts (our shifts start every 15 minutes). I am glad you had the courage to do what you had to do. I am going to start looking for an at home job..so i dont have to deal with the crowds. ha! I wish you the best...we know we can do this!!!

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TT - it's all good......as with all things, we learn often what we don't want to do or what's not our strength by trial and error. If it wasn't a good fit, then it wasn't a good fit. What a blessing the program is in helping us process these things and take action!

Best to you with your search! I too believe HP will guide you to a job that is a great match for ya....

(((Hugs)))

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Your courage is inspiring to me. It really gets down to real life. Thank you for posting. I remember being more this way when I was in my late teens, early twenties and don't really understand how or where I became so fearful of life all the time. This is a great reminder not to live in fear.

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Thank you for your support and encouragement. Today has not been such a great day because I've gotten numerous emails from them today despite leaving in a professional way and making sure everything that belonged to them was returned to them. The hiring manager took a defensive stance in her first email that she had covered everything concerning the job in the hiring process. It isn't as if I pointed the finger at anyone when resigning the position. I'd just stated it wasn't right for me. I've now gotten another email asking if I want to respond to her first email. Additionally, the recruiter has sent me one too. Things are cleared with HR and I will be paid.  I really don't want to engage in a discussion with anyone there nor will I.  It's interesting that companies can reject you and say that they're looking for a better fit candidate with no explanation, but it's so difficult for an employer to accept that someone might be wanting a "better fit" employer. And more difficult yet to accept that the employee doesn't owe them an explanation. 

I did reach out to another company that contacted me last week for an interview to see if I can still schedule that. I had emailed them that I had been hired. In this instance too... no explanation is needed as to why I'm now available.  I can cross that bridge later if I even need to at all. 

Thank you, Debra... I  hope you find something that's good for your health and well-being. We spend so much time in a workplace.  

Jerry thank you. I agree, at least with making a decision the energy changes and there's room for new possibilities.

Thank you hotrod, Debb, littelionman, Iamhere.  I don't know that I'm so courageous. I just know that I cannot do feeling drained physically, emotionally or spiritually again. That's what happened in my prior work.  We learn from this program to recognize people, places and things that wreak havoc with our serenity. I'm grateful people in Alanon taught me how to love myself enough to make these choices that honor my health.

ClearTheFog, thank you! What a wonderful compliment. I sure wish I didn't have fears.  I know I always will but somehow trying new things even little things can help me feel a little less fearful and it can help me to work up to the bigger stuff and remembering to ask hp to be with me throughout the day.  

Yesterday, I  had to return the things that belonged to this job. I didn't want to go back to that workplace. I asked someone to come with me like a kid on their first day of school going to a new school where they don't know anybody.  I asked my friend to wait downstairs for me but I asked my higher power to come upstairs to the company. I had all these projections that came from fear (false evidence appearing real) going through my head. I thought management would confront me and someone be nasty to me. That didn't happen and I got through what I needed to do just fine with hp's help. I saw things with my name on them - all the new employee things they had made for me. I was in the elevator alone going back down to the street and crying. I had so much hope it would be a good job for me but I just knew it wasn't. Then a feeling of relief came over and I knew it was hp's will and I'd made a good choice for me. 

Thanks ((((everyone))))))  TT

 

 



-- Edited by tiredtonite on Thursday 10th of September 2015 08:04:55 PM

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You are such a courageous person. Unafraid to move on. I like how you are so honest with yourself. Better things ahead I am sure!

 



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Thank you so much kellyn for your best wishes.  TT



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