The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It still doesn't seem real that my ex is gone and I will never get the chance to sit and talk with him again.I have my dress ready and I am dreading tomorrow.I am grieving hard already and the funeral is going to be so final.I feel like I can't breathe and there is such an emptiness in my heart.I don't want to do anything,I don't want to move my body,I want to quit,but I can hear his voice,telling me to go on.He did always encourage me,even though he couldn't find the courage within himself,He used to say,"you are the strongest woman I know".I don't feel very strong today.
(((Mary)) you do not have to do anything but be gentle with yourself and pray. I found the serenity prayer was invaluable when I was grieving the loss of my son. HP did give me the courage,serenity and wisdom to show up and keep on keeping on. Continued prayers.
((Mary)) I do so understand and would like to assure you that this too will pass. With the help of alanon tools and program friends, I did manage to walk through the grieving process . It is not an easy road.
Hugs Mary feel your feelings and emotions
And Be extra gentle with yourself.
Grieve as long as you need to, i found it very
Clensing. I faced many truths in the process.
It helped me so much to release the pain, hurt
And suffering in a healthy manner.
Find a support group if you feel the need. Its
Okay to grieve and be sad for your losses. Its
A process and it will take time. You are strong,
You will get thru this.
Hold onto your HP to give You the strength. You
need good healthy people around you at times
Like this. Alanon, church, therapist, trusted
Friends.
(((Mary))) - still got you in my prayers and still sending out positive thoughts your way. Be gentle with yourself - know that you are not alone and it's OK to grieve!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
You are young, my son, and, as the years go by, time will change and even reverse many of your present opinions. Refrain therefore awhile from setting yourself up as a judge of the highest matters. Plato
With all his problems and shortcomings, you remember the best of him, I think that is appropriate for a day like this. He was very likely right, you probably are the w\strongest woman he ever knew. Let that comfort you, but also know that HP is there to lean on and get serenity from when that strength isn't enough.
I am very sorry to hear you are finding this time so painful. I know that
there are many things that one can say to another when there is a lose
of life and although the pain you are feeling is very real right now, know
that your HP has your back and knows what you need.
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
(((((Mary))))) I remember doing an inventory of the painful feelings like you are going thru and coming up with lots of unexpected awareness on what it was really about. Go inward on your feelings and see what you come up with. Death is (for me) the deepest form of powerlessness. Take good self care.
Oh jerry, I think I have uncovered something,we were two people caught up in a disease of madness,who only wanted to love each other and we never got the chance.
