The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Welcome Ce, you have started. Now when you feel more comfortable, you can introduce yourself and let us know why you are here. You can also read the postings of other members to see if you can identify and then share your thoughts.
This place is wonderful and has helped me to understand my situation. I have found people here who care and understand in ways that I could never have imagined possible. Their understanding helped me to understand my situation better.
Thank you for reaching out, it means a lot. I remember when I first posted here I cried and cried! They were tears of relief that it wasn't just me, that other good people had been on my path and learnt ways of coping that they were willing to share. They listened and I unburdened myself and they showed me that I didn't have to be alone anymore. They helped me to release so much pent up confusion and frustration and to focus on what I needed to feel better. Alanon is a loving safe place. I'm happy that you are here with us.
I started by just reading the message boards, because there are so many here that have been in your shoes. When you are ready, post any question you may have or introduce yourself. There will be many that will identify with you.
you may also read through the Alanon steps up at the top right hand corner...Read the sticky notes at the top of this message board, etc. Glad you are here!
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"Feelings are never right or wrong, it is how you act on them."- Unknown
You can continue on from where you left off on your bio CE. That tells us that you belong and for many of us we relate. Somehow you have found the right place to land. Welcome (((((hugs)))))
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Like you, I began by listening. I think this was before the internet was invented! I attended meetings in person, and for the first several meetings I sat without speaking. Other people spoke, welcomed me and (apparently) ignored me as I silently cried at what they were saying. I was home. They experienced what I was feeling. Exactly. I was no longer alone.
I hope you can find the same for yourself. Read here, and consider attending AlAnon meetings in your area. They saved me.
Welcome CE - so glad you took that first step and posted here!
We welcome you with open arms and I just want you to know that you are not alone....
Come back soon!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hello CE. I am new as well and have only had one post. It was very hard for me to get that one post out, but I am glad I did. I received many wonderful replies by very caring people who have been in similar situations. Post when you are ready and know that you are not alone:)
Start with the truth, it may hurt or even make you cry or get angry, but most people feel releaved when their situation is out in the open. Many people will respond with kindness and understanding. Then you will become a miracle in progress.
