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AH is severely ill with his drinking and supposedly entering rehab soon. So my cousin called and sent some money and said to treat myself. I really realize now, after 1 1/2 yrs at ALANON that when i take my thoughts away from my AH, and put them on myself, I realized that I hadnt been addressing my panic/anxiety disorder. So, I took a cab and went to the hair salon and had the works done with my hair. They really pamper me there. Got my hair colored and cut, conditioned etc They put you in this lovely chair while they wash your hair that vibrates and is warm, They put your feet on a soft footstool and warm cloths on your face etc. It was soo nice. I told my AH nicely to stay in his room and let me sleep and enjoy some peace etc.
Also this weekend, my bro in law/niece/nephew are taking me out to eat and thrift shop. My husband is in no condition to go and the niece 16 is very vocal whenever she sees him about his drinking and hurting me.
Yarn - So glad you got some pampering in! Happiest of happy birthdays!
I can relate to neglecting self-care with regards to panic/anxiety disorder...I suffer from those things as well and when I'm obsessing over my AH (causes enough anxiety in and of itself!) I forget to focus on my own mental health and then get hit with it like a ton of bricks at inopportune times. Anyway, I hope you find more time for simple self-care yourself at home. Bubble baths, painting your nails, etc.
Happy birthday again!!
-- Edited by RealitySucker on Saturday 5th of September 2015 01:04:40 PM
Happy Birthday Yarn and way to go on the self-care/pampering!!! It sounds perfectly lovely....
My hope is you have a great birthday and enjoy the celebrations in the moment. Have a great, great, great weekend!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene