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mjferg


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I just received the news I have been dreading,My ex was found dead today.I am kind of in shock right now,not sure what I am feeling.They are taking him for an autopsy,possible overdose.Of course I feel overwhelming  sadness right now,also, I am wondering if I did the right thing,questions,so many questions.How will I handle the funeral?I knew with his lifestyle that he was probably not going to live long,but I guess I was hoping he would get better and maybe I would run into him someday and he would be happy.This is going to be hard.



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I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you said he was living a lifestyle huge couldn't keep up with. Just try to stay in the moment and not look back or forward. Hugs.

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So sorry, so very sorry. It is the news that we all dread and all know is possible.
Stay close to your program during all the fallout.

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I am sorry Mary I am well aware that this is a fatal disease. I will hold positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

Please remember the first step-- We are powerless over people, places and things We did not cause it, cannot cure it and cannot control it. HP is in control.

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I am so sorry. I worry about that with my X, as well, especially because of my son. Hugs to you today. Please let us know if need anything. I honestly have no advice to give but I wanted you to know you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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laurab


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I am so sorry this is causing you such grief. Stay strong and remember you did not cause it, cannot cure it and cannot control it.

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My sincere condolences to you. He is in his HP's hands now and at peace.
Wishing you peace as well.

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hugs to u

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Jill


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Oh I am keeping you in my prayers as you live in the moment to get through this. Please try to feel the support we feel for you. You are not alone.

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I am so sorry.

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So very sorry for your loss. I too am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.

Know we are here in any way we can be. (((Hugs)))

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((((((Hugs)))))) Mary,

I'm so sorry, and am sending peaceful prayers for you and your ex. I hope that some happy memories can surface through the shock, confusion and grief. Thinking of you lots.

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You sound calm Mary...if so good for you.  That is one of the consequences of this disease.  Have you in my prayers.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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mjferg


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I am, oddly enough calm about it,and the acceptance is there,too.I knew there would come a day when I would hear the news that he went back to jail or was found dead.The choices he ended up making led him to his death and they certainly weren't my choices.I don't feel guilty about it.I am at peace with my decision now,I know that even if we had been together he would still be drinking and using.

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Sending you my thoughts and prayers. My AH died in the middle of our divorce proceedings. We had three daughters together (all in their 20's). I asked my HP to guide me as I had no idea how to handle the funeral arrangements, etc. He helped me get through the process in a way that felt right. Hoping the same for you.

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That is the solution for myself also, "I asked my HP...."  I've made  this a habit as it is the best habit I have now and the only one that works. MJ and Green eyes this morning you are the sponsors...you offer what works which is what  I'm always interested in.   Mahalo Nui...Thanks Much  (((((hugs))))) smile



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