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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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The C2C reading for September 3 speaks about coming into Al-Anon and finding that we have built a lifetime of dreams and promises reserved for a special day called:" Someday"
. It points out that we tell ourselves that "someday", I'll call my friend that I lost touch with, "someday" I'll let them know how I feel," someday" I'll be happy,"Someday" I will , meditate, find a job, speak my mind , "someday" just wait and see.
Al-Anon has helped me to see that today can be that someday, that I've always wanted. Truthfully there isn't enough time in these 24 hours to do everything I hope to do.and I must remember there is time to start making my dreams come true.
By asking my HP for guidance and taking some steps in the direction of my dreams. I will be able to accomplish more than I would ever have thought possible.
Reminder for today: "States that I will not wait for approval or a rainy day or the 366 day of the year, or" Someday" to accomplish the things in my life.
The quote is from the Jonathan Wolfgang von Goethe; "Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days---
what you can do or think you can do, "begin it. " For boldness has magic, power and genius in it.
I love living in the present moment and enjoying each day as it is presented to me. I know prior to program I was so absorbed by worrying about the past or projecting my fears into the future I could not have a true present, moment-enjoy the beauty in the day or even take a small action to fulfill a dream . Today thinks to the small powerful tools of alanon I can place a foundation under my dreams and know that life is a process and it is always progress not perfection that I seek.
Thanks Betty
Lots of my Someday I Will's have become Yesterday I Did's since i found al-anon. Currently I am working on "someday I will finish my degree". And also "Someday I will get out and make some friends"".
It's much more fun actually doing it
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Lots of my "someday I wills" have also become "I dids" and "I am doings" since coming to Alanon.
Giving myself the permission to enjoy today instead of waiting for someday to enjoy what I like to do has made a huge difference in my life. AND, giving myself permission to deal with today's issues instead of putting them off to deal with someday has resulted in me taking care of a lot of things that I avoided in the past. Coming full circle, not having to worry about those someday issues has freed up more time for my to enjoy the someday activities that I like.
Someday I am going to have a clean and organized house. The work I have done the past 2 weekends has already make a huge difference, and with a long weekend coming up, that clean and organized house is getting closer and closer to being one of my "I dids"!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
I was a someday person for a long, long while. I will say that someday thinking has changed tons since Al-Anon! Not all of my dreams can happen today but I can do something for them - small steps = progress, growth and change.
This...."Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days .... is so spot on and super powerful and how I used to be! I could get frozen into non-action just by second guessing or over-thinking or ? before this program.
So grateful for the journey and the tools and the fellowship I've found here that helps me know that someday can be right here and now - today!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
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