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Broken513


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Well last night I mentioned carefully to my AH that I had started Al-Anon online. (he was sober) His question to me was why did you do that for? SMH..... My answer... Because I am the wife, the sister and the daughter of an alcoholic, I didn't cause it, I cannot change it, and I cannot cure it. I told him I need to understand because I worry too much about him and feel so helpless when I am trying to help him. I told him I am learning a lot here and I understand that I cannot make him change his ways. But I will have to start changing mine, and he will have to start getting used to that. Today I told him he was on MOM duty...( I have been taking care of his mother) He said he was going to mow the lawn...He has not mowed the backyard in over a month and thank God for the fence no one can see it...I said it can wait another day, I am going to go visit my sister who is in town this week. He is not a happy camper but he is going to do it...she has 2 Dr appointments today... Dont know what I will come home to this evening, if I come home..may just go to MIL house for the night....ha! 

I just felt it was time he knew...we are a mess because of this alcoholism however I do not usually keep things from him and have been feeling guilty about it....now I can have my books delivered to my home and not MIL's..ha!

Debra



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Good for you (( Broken )) Sounds like progress to me . Keep coming back, You are so worth it!!!

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Great Broken Keep coming back

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It is one baby step at a time program.

My xah was attending AA and then i Started
alanon. Wish i had started it 30 years ago.

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Good for you.


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What a lovely post Broken, thank you for the reminder about how good it feels to stand honestly in our own shoes. Hope you had a wonderful day ((hugs)).

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Happy for you Broken, all will work out!  



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Way to go Broken! Taking care of ourselves is NEVER a bad thing!! It's the disease that makes us wonder though....

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It is always a good thing to be able to state your truth. Keep on taking care of yourself.

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