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todays reading is about the importance of self-care. For many of us it is the last thing we do- truly put ourselves first. In fact, there is a sentence in the reading about how the writer would sometimes care for him/herself, but somehow still keep the focus on others! That resonated with me-- there have definitely been times when I knew I was doing things that were good for me but mostly because I thought I should, and often with other people in mind! The writer speaks about asking HP for guidance and that self-care is a reflection of accepting HPs love.
Sometimes... With self care and acceptance in mind, I have caught myself realizing I am feeling.......just fine! For me it's knowing that my life doesn't have to be on a prescribed track that I do not make any decisions about. I try to pay attention to the things everyday that involve taking care of myself.
Hi Mary Self care is an extremely important part of my recovery and one that neglected prior to program. From childhood I was told to focus on others, care for others and that any attention that I placed on myself was deemed as selfish.
I made my needs an afterthought and then became enraged when others did not care for me. I was invisible to them. Once I started working the program , keeping the focus on myself, my feelings, my needs, I began to see that I truly needed to care for myself spiritullly, emotionally and physically so that I would be able to care for others without expectations, in a healthy fashion . I found that this was not selfish but a necessity for survival . Thanks to alanon I too am thriving.
i am entering 2 months of this because AH is gone for work, and i tend to obsess and act crazy :/ ... This ties in, for me, with detachment. Focus on my self, working out, and coming here for meetings, and every single time i do, things work out for the better! Thank you!
Self care is a very important part of taking back my dignity. When I was anger and
resentful, hurting and upset ... it was making me sick .... so self care to me is
getting my head on straight and staying inside my hula hoop, detaching with
love and relying on my HP for the rest. On the flip side, physically ... I have
gotten back to my morning yoga ritual, taking up with a kindle and book series,
loving my time spent here on MIP with all of you lovely people, and have found
a new lease on life that I would not trade in for the world.
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
