The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I been out of an alcoholic relationship for over 30 yrs I was married at 16 to an alcoholic and stayed 14 yrs l left work on myself married a wonderful man happy healthy marriage for 25 yrs he passed away over 2 yrs ago .I am in another healthy relationship and we our happy I live in fl .I Never bother anyone up north lived in fl for 24 yrs MY stepfather passed I went home got in contact with my daughter and her family and mother all dysfunction. dd husband is alcoholic sister husband alcoholic dd dysfunction . my mom live is a really dirty house i tried to help her but my sister was upset as i now got back into the picture SHE wants all the money someone crossed my name off the will i don't care about that .what i do care about was my mom but she listens to my sister and i try to do the right thing for my mom but the dysfunction gets in the way. I have now at this point just changed my phone number I am back in fl and wont be going back gee it so easy to get pulled into there mess i just decided to let go and lose touch with them all again i worked to hard to go back. gee it can go on and on i feel bad my dd didn't follow my footsteps but i cant save her but i worked to hard to go back i just wish the pain and tears would stop tks for listening theres so much more i just cant get into all this .
Welcome to MIP Bailyboo, I do understand the difficult interaction of which you speak and just wanted to welcome you and say when you are ready to share the rest of the pain please keep coming back You are not alone.
It is fantastic that you detached from the insanity for so many years and built a healthy life for yourself -- Congrats.
Alanon has face to face meetings in most communities and the hot line number can be found in the white pages. Face to face meetings helped me to break the isolation caused by the insanity of my family and gave me new tools so I could live life with courage, serenity and wisdom. Keep coming back .
Hello and welcome bailyboo! Glad you found us here at MIP - and glad you found your strength to share.
I applaud your detaching as well. It's not easy to do and at times, seems to be painful, but with program work, it becomes easier and feels 'right'.
F2F meetings helped me understand the Al-Anon program, and helped me find some great folks who share many of my feelings and experiences for support. The steps, literature, fellowship and program have been a source of sanity for me since I joined.
If F2F meetings are hard for you right now, you can attend meetings here - there are 2 per day. The schedule is up at the top, left hand corner and the link to the chat/meeting room is there too.
Welcome again to MIP - know that you aren't alone and we're just a post away!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
