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Unfortunately I lived by a lot of those old slogans for quite a few years. Tried them all actually and none of them worked. So glad I found Alanon, the slogans are much healthier!
How about....If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.....I now think about this way different than I used to - such as, "Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results = insanity!!
It's all in how I 'see' these as to what value they have or don't have!
Ha-ha-ha....like this - let's see where it goes!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Ohh good one! I've used that slogan with the wrong mindset many times myself. Maybe in conjunction with the 3 Cs of Al Anon it becomes a much better slogan ;)
I agree Rosanne. Some might see this post as pointless and giving energy to an old program best left behind. But I find value in seeing how far I've come, and when you look at the old way of doing things vs. the Al Anon way, it's refreshing to see the difference!
-- Edited by littlelionman on Sunday 30th of August 2015 10:26:14 PM
I am still trying to replace "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" with "Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean". It's still a struggle, I'd much rather not say anything and not have to deal with emotional fallout. I was totally raised that way, so i'ts tough, but worth it!
Kenny
-- Edited by KennyFenderjazz on Monday 31st of August 2015 01:36:51 PM
That's a good one Kenny!!! TY for the share - FOO slogans have got to be the most 'sick' of all.....LOLOL!! At least for me!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
ooooh, Kenny, that old slogan is the light that sparks a lot of disagreements between my AW and me! I am actually having an internal discussion with myself motivating myself to say what I mean, mean what I say, and not say it mean instead of not saying anything at all, and that process just seems to take more time than she is willing to wait for a response from me, lol!
Another one for me: if someone slaps you on the cheek, turn and give them the other one. I am working to replace that with: If someone slaps you on the cheek, direct them to the nearest gym where they can find a more appropriate punching bag, and get out of reach of that second slap!
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Wow Kenny I think that blew my mind a little. I'm not sure if I even recognized that one as a behavior that needed reflection. Thanks so much for your share!
