The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The first gift a newcomer receives from contact with Al-Anon is hope. Seeing how other rise above their problems, listening to situations worse than their own, absorbing the atmosphere of love and goodwill, send them home with a new lease on life. (One Day At a Time in Al-Anon, pg.94).
I am past the newcomer stage, but am still learning and will always be Happy Our Program Exists, because Al-anon has given me, personally, so much hope for all things possible.
I read something the other day . Try the program for 90 days. If not satisfied we will be glad to refund your misery. A little humor, but there is no doubt that Al-anon is a serious and wise program that helps us find a power greater than ourselves.
__________________
"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Thanks Debb I agree, alanon is a fantastic program that gave me the tools to live life with courage, serenity and wisdom. I must add I needed to surrender my "Magical thinking " , pick them up ,use them and keep coming back.
Fairlee, have you worked the first three steps of Al-anon. You can work them
right here on this board. I noticed that you are having a hard time with
resentment and I feel bad that you are stuck in that awful place right now.
I remember how that felt and the steps are really helpful. Betty (Hotrod)
moderates the steps, so you post and she replies and works with you.
xoxox
__________________
"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
I have started sooo many times. I need to be more serious about working the steps. Thank you Debb! I feel like I am all over the place, feeling great one day, like I have this all worked out and then I crash and burn...
Fairlee, it is okay, we all go through what you are going through.
I did not mean to make it sound like you were not working the
steps, just wanted to urge you to, when you are feeling like you
are "crashing and burning" that would be the best time to go over
those steps again, that would be the most appropriate time to
get help for you, to just go over the steps again when you are
feeling bad.
__________________
"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Debb: Thanks for mentioning that the steps can be worked right here on the board...DUH on me!!! I keep hearing and reading from people work the steps, work the steps...and i read the them but was not quit sure how to WORK them... so I searched further after reading your reply to fairlee and found the link for the steps board. I believe HP stepped in here because I was getting ready to start asking about it. Maybe it was just not time to start working them? But now after 2 weeks I think it is time.
Thanks Debb. I am a newcomer and am starting to see the huge benefits of Al Anon. And this is a fantastic program thanks to you all here who offer your wisdom and compassion. So thank you (((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
So happy Fairlee, Debra and Billie that you are finding the help you need here on this board,
I know everyone strives to share and care. {{HUGS Back at you all}}
__________________
"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Playing catch up - great post Debb & great share!!! I am really digging these threads relative to the slogans/quick thoughts. These small 'things' are a huge portion of daily immediate returns to sanity in the moment of 'drama'.
You rock and I appreciate your service!!
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
