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A son, who is also bi polar, is in the 9th day of his cycle. He keeps texting me. His partner and their 3 month old went to a friends. He is alone in their house. He texted that she is going to the police to get him out of the house. He has missed this whole week of the best job he has ever had. I don't know if the job will be there when he comes to his senses. He has no where to go if she gets him out of the house.
Last time this happened, the police called me to come and get him. The only reason I did was that it was the first day home with the baby and I felt that after a C section I would be helping this girl who is in so far over her head. We found a room in a rooming house and he stayed there for 2 months until she took him back. I stayed far away from them even though I really wanted to see the baby.
I know the phone is going to ring soon. I know I can not do anything. I am overwhelmed, scared, and so full of sorrow for him.
He is on probation for DWI and he must have missed the last 2 group sessions. He has court next week and he will go the jail for violating probation. I will not bail him out.
He lives in the moment and will not take any meds which might help the bipolar component. He never drinks until he needs to medicate himself when the down comes. That part makes me angry.
Sending you support right now. I've been in a similar situation with my AD. "When in doubt, don't" and "Let Go and Let God," are both slogans that have gotten me through difficult times like yours. I would say the Serenity Prayer over and over again to get me through.
LB, so sorry this is happening to you. I have a bi-polar daughter and an AH, both in the same house with me!!! I understand what you are describing, and I agree with Green Eyes, "Let Go and Let God", "When In Doubt, don't" and detach with love and empathy. He will get the help he needs if he decides to get help, not anytime sooner. Saying prayers for you and your family and keep saying the Serentiy Prayer. {{HUGS}}
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Welcome back. You have been through quite a lot over the years haven't you. My son is now in prison and it has been the best thing God could have done for him. A good 2 1/2 years can do wonders for everyone concerned. Sometimes Jail/prison is maybe what some A's need because nothing else works.
I tried so so hard to keep him safe but like you nothing ever worked. I finally let go and let him decide what he wanted to do with his life and his decision was good for me. ..... prison. Florence Prison Arizona. Good place.... My son is training wild horses ( BLM ) and is a peer counselor in prison. He works hard every day and is growing up to be a good man and take responsibility for himself.
I pray for you and your son that both of you will find a way to let go and let God take care of everything.....good or bad.
(((( hugs ))))
PS: My son's mental problems have all gone away once the alcohol and meds were taken away.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Thank you ((((((((((Green Eyes, Debb and Cathyinaz,))))))))))) Some how I lost my way I stopped coming to this board. I do belong here so I can disengage with love and maybe support other people.
Cathyinaz - I didn't tell you before how pleased I am that your boy is doing well. You have entered into a more peaceful place.
-- Edited by laurab on Friday 28th of August 2015 05:45:25 PM
