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I went to my morning AA home group and it was another goodie...The subject about trusting and relying upon our HP. The shares were real and honest and I attempted to keep mine in that condition also. I shared about trusting my HP within my amends process and not letting fear and guilt give me short cuts. I also mentioned not leaving any door open for patronization and excuses from the people I had hurt. After my share I sat and listened to the others and my phone buzzed so I checked the message and got news that my 1st cousin has just passed away and she was one of those amends I made because of my behaviors in the family and with her alcoholic husband my alcoholic sponsor (we drank a lot together). I won't go into the mess because you all understand the mess created by the disease. She was a part of the disease that ran strongly thru my family of origin and now she is free of it. Just after I got the message of her passing my phone buzzed again and this time it was my grand daughter the daughter of my eldest son with the message that we will be great grands again and with quiet, peaceful and serene acceptance I thanked God. God often fills the holes in my life as I bet he does with many of the MIP family members. HAH!! I love it!! Who else can work my life out this well. This one was outside my imagination and well inside the mind of HP. She is 6 weeks along as of our last telephone call and I told her I don't want the labor pains but will support the bump as best we can. LOL
My HP has worked so very many miracles in my life I just stay quiet and grateful. Hope its a girl she already has a Daniel. Thanks for letting me share. ((((hugs))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Sunday 23rd of August 2015 01:07:50 AM
Na ta tatou whaea ko Papatuanuku... in the name of earth mother,,, sorry so much to hear of your loss my friends. And as the old King Jim ses- The Lord giveth and The Lord taketh away... it is good to be able to grieve... to move through a passing...
taku aroha ki a koe; he manaaki, ha taiaki... may my love be added to both guard and guide you... Jerry, friend and spirit... ...
Jerry, Sorry for the loss, happy/excited for the new life....thank you for sharing this. I am on this wall constantly reading.. It is posts like this that makes it all a little less scarier.
So sorry to hear of your loss, and equally happy to hear of the new baby coming into your life!
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
It is amazing the way our HP works in our lives .... the signs are there
for sure that he/she is there ..... my condolences for the loss of your cousin
and blessings to you all for a happy healthy grand baby.
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(((JerryF))) HP does work in mysterious ways His wonders to perform-- So happy to hear of the arrival of a new grand child . Such a powerful message.
Prayers on the way for you as you grieve the loss of your cousin.
Love this share! So very sorry for your loss but excited for your family and the new bundle of joy!
I often love to sit and just let God do.....whatever it is HP needs to do in my life and however hard that is for me to just SIT and do nothing, because sometimes it's right then and there that life can change in an instant. Either good or bad or both, after careful reflection. HP's blessings are abundant and all around us. Thank You, Jerry for sharing today.
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Andromeda I love that response. It is clearly understanding. Being the spectator as HP works for and in my life is exciting because often I would never have thought of or arrived at the solutions HP has. Marvelous and Happy time for us and all we need to do is receive the gifts without reluctance...with Mahalos...Thank Yous in gratitude. Right On!! ((((hugs))))
Betty I no longer grieve life on life's terms. I automatically go into acceptance and gratitude for the part she played in my life and her acceptance of my part including the amends. She was very understanding while I would have had a hard time putting up with my part in the disease in the family. Yes I did do positive and supportive things in between the wars with the cops and others...OH MY!! HP had me live thru it for this reason...that I could be of help to others later on. He was building our 12th step even back then. (((((hugs)))))
(((Jerry))) - WOW......that's just about all I can say! Just kidding - we all know I am a gal of many words vs. just a few....
I love how you accept the passing of a loved one - moving into acceptance and gratitude. That's a wonderful way to apply this program to what is inevitable - the passing of those we have loved and been blessed with in our lives. I need to fine away your wisdom for these life events - I've gotten better at loss in recovery but it's been one of those life events that can turn me upside down in the past.
And how freakin' exciting that there is a new baby on the way! My 2nd G-Baby is coming the first week of October and I am getting really, really excited. My first is so cute and so much fun - I just can't wait for the second. I do have to laugh - my son and his baby-momma gave me all kinds of rules. I will just say that I follow 'most' - I believe it's my right as Grand-ma to give fruit snacks for breakfast if I so choose!!!
Huge hugs to you for your share as well as your grace! I always learn something new when you post, so I am grateful for you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
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