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Today's reading in C2C talks about the slogan Live and let live. It suggests daily actions, Alanon tools and finding an Alanon sponsor to help us work the program and to better understand the slogans. One tool which is suggested in the reading is detachment.
The reading says, "...many of my problems stemmed from minding everyone's business but my own. But how do you turn your eyes on yourself and live for the very first time in your life?" Progress for me in this area has meant using the tool of loving detachment concerning others. Loving detachment for me doesn't mean detaching from the person I care about, but from the agony of involvement.
The reading goes on to say, "But how do you turn the your eyes on yourself and "live" for the first time in your life?" It uses a conversation between a sponsor and sponsee to answer this question. The sponsor asks the sponsee what they had done earlier in the day. The sponsee can recall a very busy day but not the things they had done. For myself, this had felt like I'd stepped out of my own body and was keep watch on others. I had been reacting to someone else's life choices rather than practicing self focused living. It's suggested in the reading that we stay present and aware as we go through our day of our own needs and practice self love. The gift of serenity is mine when I do this.
The reminder reminds us that by choosing to take responsibility for our own lifes and not meddle in the affairs of others, we gain greater awareness of our own life and our chances are better for having serenity.
The quote is "Each man's life represents a road toward himself." Herman Hesse
To thine own self be true :) ((hugs)) TT
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Thanks for this reading TT- it is indeed a powerful reminder.
i can remember thinking- I know how to let others live but learning HOW to live myself will be difficult. Thanks to alanon and my sponsor I found the answers.
Thanks for your service.
Thanks for posting! Seems today's reading was hand-picked for me.
I think I could use some more practice with detachment. It will certainly get easier with practice.
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Thanks for the daily and thanks for the ESH! I have to continue to practice detachment (with love) regularly....I had such a hard time with it relative to my boys because...well....they were my offspring. No matter how many times I heard the 3 Cs, I had this thinking process that would slip back into my brain suggesting that I should/could/otta do more because I gave birth to them.
The better I got at detachment, the more peace I found. When I was truly able to stop asking questions and concerning myself with their lives and isms, I become more calm and more able to work this program with added clarity.
What a great reading! TY For Sharing!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
