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One of my very best friends in the world has dealt with a lot over the last 5 years and has always been a rock for me. She listened even when she thought I was off my rocker .. lol .. I will love her forever because of just that. Probably because of that she's one of the few people who if they call me at any hour I'm answering the phone like I'm wide awake even if I'm not .. lol.
Her son who has suffered from multiple issues stemming from mental disorders, drug addiction and possibly alcohol addiction as well .. he definitely can't do anything in moderation. She just lost her youngest brother who was younger than me to drug addiction/cancer that is the tip of the iceberg on what has happened.
Her son though is in the hospital again and at first they thought it was acute pancreatitis once they got him stabilized he started having hallucinations which he was admitted for just a few months ago in the psych ward for. Well he took a huge turn for the worse and he's been airlifted to another hospital because if I understand correctly he's on a ventilator and has a trach tube as well .. I'm absolutely stunned for her. I have gently been pushing her to a 12 step program for a while now .. she knows I attend alanon and obviously why. She did go when the issue with her brother became so apparent there was no denying what was going on. She finally is in a place where she can start taking care of herself and has been, which I'm so glad for her. She is someone who has taught me the saying it's not my business and what boundaries look like. After all of these years of taking care of everyone else I think she's at her limit. This is just one more thing pushing her to slow down and breathe.
I think the bigger issue is he's still insisting before this all happened he wasn't doing drugs, I was so grateful when she said to me I know you thought that was the case however you never pushed .. it was the nurse who really put him in a corner .. so I don't know if this is part of him detoxing that has caused so much damage to his body or what he has done to himself physically or mentally.
Right now the issue is that he's in the hospital and things do not look good. I happened to check in on her today just to say hello and found all this additional information which I was so upset she didn't tell me sooner.
It is heartbreaking to hear her cry and know how totally powerless we all are over the issue of addiction. If everyone can lift them up in prayer/meditation I would so greatly appreciate it. She has been through so much already and so has her young son he's only 26. Addiction is unfortunately suffers no discrimination in terms of family, race, sexual orientation, demographics or financial stability or instability it just takes who it wants with no regard.
Hugs and thanks in advance, S
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Prayers from my small place in the world too. Positive thoughts as well!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Just an update .. He's still in icu and they are trying to assess the damage it is unclear still. The doctors are thinking he tried to kill himself. I'm heartbroken for the family. He needs to be in treatment.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I'll keep them all in my thoughts and prayers. This is when I hate the disease most - when the despair, even if for a moment, helps the disease progress instead of hope allowing it to be treated.
(((Hugs))) to you and all family!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
