The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I sign divorce papers after 38 years of marriage. All those years of my husband drinking and me being responsibility for everything I am on the point of being just myself. It is no easy but I am working my steps and using slogans to live and let live.
Sending you lots of hugs and support. I made the difficult decision to divorce my AH after 30 years of marriage, after only the last five years becoming more and more intolerable. Keep the focus on you and your program. It does get better and you will be able to breathe again.
Welcome to MIP! Thank you for your share and your honesty. I am so glad you found us and joined us.
(((Hugs))) to you as you begin the next chapter of your life. Peace, prayers and much love sent your way!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I was at 30 years and it is not an easy
Road. Many humps and bumps along
the way. Much pain and hurt to face
And deal with.
Daily it is getting easier being away from
Him and having no contact. My xah was dry
So i had different problems yet many of the
same. We had no children so no Family
gatherings to contend with either.
I still struggle its not easy. My heart and
Soul speak different languages than my
Head. They need retraining too. They are
Very resistant for some reason :)
Welcome to Miracles in Progress,Elzbieta It is evident that by using your alanon tools you have been well served . This is not an easy decision or road so--- Please keep coming back.
Thank you all for your time to support me in this difficult time. I feel very humble and happy to be a part of Al-Anon program. I am presently attending 2 groups a week and reading my "Courage to Change" every day. We all have our way to come to the point when decision has to be made...For me it was the time when a faced a big wall without any more possible space to move. I was stack! I know that I did not want to be back to square one, too. It was a time when my marriage was over. And when I am scary again I am thinking that I have my freedom. I love my freedom. I don't care for all those things what were taken form me by my husband in order to hart me and I am forgiven him what he did because I do underspend his sickness of alcohol and his bi-polar mind. I am free and that is all what is matters.
I also remember finding "free". It was a gift and experience I will never be able to forget also. Keep coming back and share your ESH with others. (((hugs)))
I'm in the same place, Elizbieta. I know I'm doing the right thing for my own well-being. I'm grateful to HP for surrounding me with a wonderful support system, which includes my Al-a-Pals.
-- Edited by 1911A1 on Friday 14th of August 2015 08:26:17 AM
