The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Feeling grateful, what a difference a year can make. I was absolutely strung out when I found this site, sleep deprived, raw nerved, miserable, confused and crazy feeling. Finally I asked for a half hour to myself, and sat typing away on my laptop. My phone was glued to this board for a solid two months.a year on, I have regular time to myself, sleep well, drink water, have budding friendships and enjoy today. I felt like I was walking around with a giant exclamation mark flashing over my head, and now thankfully that's gone. Life happens and my almighty brain no longer needs to have all the solutions. Its pretty sweet, freedom from almighty brain, lol. Love to all.
Thanks for that great share.....isn't it amazing how this program can work for us and free us from the bondage of the disease? I consider it a gift and a privilege to walk this path with you and all others in this program who are looking for a different/better way.
Huge (((Hugs))) to you for being here and congrats. on the great changes you've experienced by working on you! Make it a great day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
You always amazed me with your resiliency. So many little ones and even one with special needs yet you have seemed determined for a better life no matter what and you followed it up with action.
Thanks guys. Its amazing how you start and the focus is narrow then over time, it becomes a philosophy for living in general. And it's patient. Even a small amount of recovery is a blessing and one can graze on that amount, or keep plodding along. I tried to think of my favourite tool, but they all complement each other. I love not being so dependent on one preconceived outcome. Staying in today and saying, it would be nice if...... And that's as far as the thought needs to go! Because I will still be ok, and I am not an omnipotent force that weilds control over people,places or things and no longer do I wish to. Not just talking alcoholics with that one. I can have an opinion, I can state it. I can choose what I take on board and so can everyone else. I used to feel a desperate urge to make loved ones see. Now, I see and that's all I need to worry about, my own lens, and what informs it. It would be nice if certain outcomes came to pass, but cest la vie. I look at my speechless child who can't get the words in his brain out of his mouth, and is truly dependent against his will. I've largely been a prisoner of my own mind, supported by some faulty programming, as jerry f would say, not even knowing that I didn't know. Perspective is all around. Glad, so, so glad to have alanon and the many special souls here on this board. X
Hi a4l, so great to hear, thank you for sharing. I share many of the same feelings upon looking back at where I started, how I felt when I first washed up on the shores of AlAnon.
I am so grateful for the peace that I experience in my mind when I am operating from a program perspective. AlAnon helped me get through the crisis that I had worked so hard to assemble, but has remained to help me dismantle many other entrapments of my own creation.
So happy for you, so grateful for AlAnon
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
