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el-cee


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Im struggling with a newish shortcoming recently, patience. What is it and how do i get it? What tools do i need? What causes impatience? 



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El-Cee -

For me (and I struggle too with patience) it's because I am not getting what I want when I want it.

The only way I know to 'stop' it is to meditate - a slogan or the serenity prayer are very helpful when I 'feel' it coming on.

Also, take a quick look at HALT - I am even worse if any of those apply to me.

(((Hugs))) - I get it and am working on it daily...

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My impatience stems from living in the future instead of the

present  ... when I sense my impatience, I try to focus and

be more mindful of what is exactly in front of me and not

the future projection.  Hope I helped!  smile



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Hi LC there is a reading in the ODAT that points out that patience is acquired by" letting go of self-will." That struck me as the truth and so I applied/apply the third step to all my interactions .

I was amazed to discover that when I let go of my will, I found that I could be as patient as anyone. I don't want to sound as if I am a St. in all my interactions. however when I do use my third step prayer, I am a patient, serene, courageous individual.

I have also learned that my serenity did not come cheap, and I will not surrender it over some petty self-will. Trusting HP, prayer and meditation works wonders.

Glad to see you're back and have not run away with a fantastic lover.aww






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