Continue to be very gentle with yourself, Mirandac. You are doing well and have endured huge changes with courage and wisdom.

Positive thoughts and prayers continue.

Thanks for sharing your process for feeling, dealing and healing from your divorce.  Glad you're giving yourself time and being gentle with yourself as you grieve. It does take time but it sounds like you're excited about your new home and choosing things and moving forward.  ((hugs))) TT

Yeah, I understand. It takes a lot out of a person. I use to not be able to concentrate and had to learn to not push myself too much to do too many things in a day. Sometimes I tried to keep doing things as a way of pushing the grief away.  If you don't have Alanon's book Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses, it's a nice book about the grief process and may help you through. You are definitely not alone concerning these feelings. We grieve the loss of them when we're sitting in the same room with them and they are drinking and then we grieve them again when we're out of their physical presence. More serenity comes with time and the distance and the absence of the chaos. Hang in there. Keep reaching out. ((((mirandac)))

Mirandac -

I hear you working your program and doing the next right thing! Kudos for walking through the days with grace and hope for your future. Keep doing what you are doing and HP will get you thru this - in his time.

Glad you are enjoying your new home! I feel that decorating/styling a home is a never-ending process!!! perhaps I am just a slow decorator but it sure seems to be a slow process for me.

Hang tight and thanks for posting!

Mirandac, thank you for sharing your feelings of grief, which I found for

me was a natural reaction to loss.  I found that I needed to , after my

1st divorce from an extremely mean human being (he had an anxiety 

disorder, and would not seek help) that it took me along time to 

re-establish my identity (if that makes sense).  Even though I had a 

great sense of relief (divorce took 3 years), when the marriage was

final over and I did not have to live with such chaos, I felt very 

disoriented, mainly due to feelings of betrayal.  When I let go of the

feelings of betrayal, I began the healing process.  Everyone has their

own timetable, it took me too long to heal, because I should have 

sought help.  Al-Anon would have definitely been the answer for

me and would have helped open my heart so that I could let go and 

heal sooner.  Please keep coming back to talk {{HUGS}}

Mirandac, Kudos to you for using program tools to care for yourself. As you move through this, give yourself credit for the care you give yourself. You are faring well. (((Hugs)))

Mirandac -

I second Jill's message - congrats. on using the program and working on self-care and self-love.

Keep working it - it looks good on you!!

(((Hugs)))