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Unrealistic things the alcoholic says


I am just sitting her and laughing as I remember what the active alcoholic BF said last week. He was complaining about the amount of money spend on food. He says I only eat 4 dollars a day as I am not home. Since I work night shift and I sleep all day. I am not around to eat. Quit cooking meals and letting food go to waste, it cost money. I reacted with I cook because I enjoy cooking and having a decent meal and I will stop cooking for you, don't worry. He said some other things but I can not recall the words. Anyhow, since that sick comment I had to laugh as I thought if your only eating 4 dollars a day how come you have such a huge belly? How come you come home from work at 6 am and run straight to the fridge to see what you can eat since your hungry? Who was the one that went grocery shopping with me this past Saturday as we needed fresh fruit and veggies and other food? Who is the one that does not get up till 4:00 pm, leaves for work at 4:45pm and has no time to make lunches if I do not make it? 4 dollars a day for food, I wish I could live that way. Who is the one that takes coffee in a Thermos daily? Lets see how much 4 dollars a day could get? A loaf of bread=$199 per loaf, sandwich meat=$3.99 per can, mustered and ketchup=$2.99 each, lettuce=$1.99 per head, can of coffee=$12.99, and lets not forget the cream and sugar, and desert to go with the sandwich. (these are Canadian prices) The math does not add up very well. Maybe its time to invest in my own fridge and cupboard and let him defend for himself and his 4 dollars a day! The insanity of what comes out of their mouths is unreal...in fact its funny when you take a objective look at what they are saying and doing. I should have said to him when grocery shopping, remember your budget, you only have 4 dollars! lol

 

           



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My AH does the same thing, on many levels, not just food, which I am sure you must 

experience as well, but when these unrealistic statements or opinions are made I 

just say yes dear and move on.  I try not to feed into the chaos, because my

reaction and/or response will only cause the chaos to continue.  Also, I try to let it go

when it happens, because to give to much thought to the outrageous statements only

causes me to lose my peace and serenity.  It is called detachment with love.

{{HUGS}} Thanks for sharing!!!



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If he's drinking, wonder how much his cost on that is. As we all know most A's drink instead of eat.

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beacheemom wrote:

If he's drinking, wonder how much his cost on that is. As we all know most A's drink instead of eat.


That's what I was thinking.....  They don't want to talk about that?  smile 

It is unreal how irrational the diesase can be.  The rational mind can't understand it because it just doesn't make sense. 

I guess that how we know that we're getting better. smile



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Mike B wrote:
beacheemom wrote:

If he's drinking, wonder how much his cost on that is. As we all know most A's drink instead of eat.


That's what I was thinking.....  They don't want to talk about that?  smile 

It is unreal how irrational the diesase can be.  The rational mind can't understand it because it just doesn't make sense. 

I guess that how we know that we're getting better. smile


OUCH!!...The original thread and the responses should have clued me to just read and not respond however my recovery urges me to respond...as an recovering alcoholic I am reminded about how ludicrous my thinking often was.  My rationality seemed to often come from comic books and no there was no justification that would have me question the expense of my drinking and attached expenses.  I pickled my brain and still thought it worked.   God I am compulsed to being grateful for this post against my own pride and ego.  Mahalo sort of...(((((hugs))))) smile



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