Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

EarlyBird · Member

Finding time

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

EarlyBird -

Welcome to MIP! So glad you are here and looking into Alanon.

If it is absolutely impossible (for now) to get to Face to Face meetings in your community, MIP has meetings twice a day (see the schedule, top left area). They are great online meetings, and I attend often/regularly.

Perhaps as things settle down and you find more time you can then venture out to one locally. Nothing can replace going to F2F meetings, and sharing live with those in similar situations, but these meetings are certainly the next best thing.

Again, welcome aboard and so glad you are here.

Meetings online are 1.5 hours, but if you need to step away, you just do so. Meetings F2F are one hour long, so the time commitment is one hour + drive/chat time.

Hope this helps! Make it a great day!

almostThere · Senior Member

Hi EarlyBird. Welcome!

I'm new also, and have only been to two meetings. The relief that I felt after those meetings was substantial and immediate. If you can manage to get to a few you might find that it's worth it to make time for them. I'm eagerly awaiting my next meeting on Monday. I have not been to an online meeting, however, I'm sure I will give it a try at some point. I have found that through this board and the meetings, I am able to concentrate better and handle the rest of the things that I have to do throughout my day with a little less stress. I hope you can try one of these options and that you find one that helps. Keeping yourself healthy will make you the best "you" that you can be for your kids.

Saucy · Veteran Member

How do I justify it? Well, for me, I just reached the boiling point. I am pretty sassy by nature, and my tolerance level is maxed out.

Me, going to Al Anon is seriously the best thing that ever happened to my AH!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome Earlybird I can certainly understand you time constants Until you can make time for face to face meetings please try MIP's On line meetings held here 2xs a day
Here is the link and time frames

www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html
Morning Meetings

Mon. - Fri. at 9am EST

Sat. - Sun at 10am EST

Each Sunday morning at 10 am EST, we will be having a Spiritual meeting with a topic relating to the Spiritual part of our program.

Night Meetings

Mon-Saturday 9PM eastern time

Sunday 7PM eastern time

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

You might also be able to call the Al-Anon hotline for your area and find a meeting that has free childcare. Some meetings do. What I've gotten from meetings in terms of mental health and emotional tools are definitely worth the meeting time away from my child - they allow me to be a much better parent.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene