My cure for fear was an alcoholic - Al-Anon Family Group

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

My cure for fear was an alcoholic

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Great honesty and clarity LC as well as powerful 4th and 5th Step work. That is what the Steps are all about Finding out our own destructive behavior owning them so that we can be set free. I salute your progress . I was surprised to find that I valued my negative, destructive behavior as "assets" such as, sarcasm, being a loner, judging peopl eetc,I thought it made me unique. Not so I have found and am so very glad to have found a better way .

HP is a much better cure for fear

Your reflections reminds me that the reality of working this program is very real. Love the miracles of alanon

Link to that sticky alanon.activeboard.com/t52247626/the-giftspromises-of-alanon/

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Hotrod, I had forgotten about these. Im such a grateful member of this fellowship.x

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

LC i love reading them often . I know they are true as I see it each day on this Board.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Great awareness elcee. Those are hard things to voice to
Others. I gained the weight too because my ah had no control
Over what i ate. I still have weight to come off its more
Emotional weight than anything else. It did hurt me in so
many other ways.

Ah did not like it caused problems in my marriage, made me
Feel bad about myself, Thats where the saying we get as sick
as they are in a different way. It was self destructive on my
Part i did it because he was controlling. I could control what
I ate.

I was a size 5 when i got married but have always had weight
issues all my life. Emotional weight issues again.

Debb · ~*Service Worker*~

Was a single mom for 12 years after divorcing a verbally abusive husband. Did some dating, but had no desire to establish a permanent relationship, until the my two kids were out on their own. Had no idea that my current husband had a drinking problem for at least 11 of the 13 years that I have been with him. I sold the home that I raised the kids in, to my son to start his family and moved an hour away to be with present husband. The verbal abuse started almost immediately after I moved in, but I had no idea that it was the alcohol!! I do love him and glad that I now understand that all this time that he would have me believe it was me that caused him all his grief, that it is not me, it's his problem. I have become a better person in spite of all the trials and am grateful to al-anon, HP and MIP. I feel confident that no matter what life presents me, the tools can be applied to anything that I face and will face in the future. It is funny, when you stop fighting the fears, the fears have nothing to feed on anymore. {{HUGS}}

Irish7 · Senior Member

Wow, I can so identify LC, with everything you said. Especially the weight. 18 months ago I decided, that's it, no more extra food, no more eating over emotions. Done. I've lost quite a lot of weight and trained for and did a triathlon. AH and A step kids have hardly noticed (gone from a size 18 to a 6) but wow have I got positive reinforcement from other sources, and it feels so good. Of course that begs the question of what my excuse is now-- I guess I'll start figuring that out when I start step 4 next week.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Yeah to you Irish7 i would love to be that focused
On my body! It comes last and i know it needs to
move up the ladder higher.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Congratulations irish, that is an amazing achievement. It feels good to let go of everything really.x

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